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Romantic Orientation Defined

Romantic orientation, also called affectional orientation, indicates the sex or gender with which a person is most likely to have a romantic relationship or fall in love. It is used both alternatively and side-by-side with the term sexual orientation, and is based on the perspective that sexual attraction is but a single component of a larger dynamic. For asexual people, romantic orientation is often considered a more useful measure of attraction than sexual orientation.

 

 

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Romantic Identities
 
--Aromantic - Lack of romantic attraction towards anyone.
--Heteroromantic - Romantic attraction towards persons of the opposite gender.
--Homoromantic - Romantic attraction towards persons of the same gender.
--Biromantic - Romantic attraction towards persons of either gender.
--Panromantic - Romantic attraction towards persons of any and all genders.
--Demiromantic - Romantic attraction towards any of the above but only after forming a deep emotional bond with the person.
 

 

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Romantic Terminology

 

Romantic Attraction - Emotional response that most people often feel that results in a desire for a romantic relationship with the person that the attraction is felt towards. Many asexual people experience romantic attraction even though they do not feel sexual attraction.
 
Aesthetic Attraction - When someone appreciates the appearance or beauty of another persons, disconnected from sexual or romantic attraction.
 
Sensual Attraction - Desire to interact with others in a tactile, non-sexual way, such as through hugging or cuddling.
 

 

Aromantic - Person who experiences little or no romantic attraction to others. Where romantic people have an emotional need to be with another person in a romantic relationship, aromantics are often satisfied with friendships and other non-romantic relationships.
 
Primary Sexual Desire - Desire to engage in sexual activity for the purposes of personal pleasure whether physical, emotional, or both.
 
Secondary Sexual Attraction - Sexual attraction that develops over time based on a person's relationship and emotional connection with another person.

 

 

Romantic Relationship - An intimate relationship is one in which you can truly be yourself with someone who you respect and are respected by in return. It is an emotional connection that can also be physical. It does not have to be in the context of a romantic or sexual relationship.

 

Sexual Attraction  -  Attraction that makes people desire sexual contact or shows sexual interest in another persons.

 

Emotional Attraction  -  Desire to get to know someone, often as a result of their personality instead of their physicality. This type of attraction is present in most relationships from platonic friendships to romantic and sexual relationships.

 

Intellectual Attraction  -  Desire to engage with another in an intellectual manner, such as engaging in conversation with them, “picking their brain,” and it has more to do with what or how a person thinks instead of the person themselves.

 

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Relationships, Squishes, and Zucchini
 
Being in a relationship does not necessarily imply that there is romance. The asexual community (including aromantics) separates sexual and romantic orientation.
 
There is such a thing as non-romantic loving relationships. Most people would agree that family is kind of non-romantic loving relationship, especially from the mother to the children, but friendship and companionship may be more important than romantic partnership even for some romantic people.
 
Not only is love not exclusive of romance, but even infatuation. For the latter, the asexual community coined the term “squish” to refer to an asexual aromantic crush. And they recently coined the term “zucchini” to refer to an aromantic platonic relationship.

 

 

 

Queerplatonic Relationships
 
A queerplatonic relationship (QPR) is one which is more intense and intimate than what most people regard as a friendship, not fitting the traditional romantic couple model. It is characterized by a strong bond, love, and emotional commitment, yet is not perceived by those involved as romantic or more than a friendship. Being a so-called platonic relationship, it does not comprehend sexuality/eroticism or exclusivity nor it is this what the relationship is organized around. It is defined by the intensity and significance of the emotional connection.
 
The people involved do not have to identify as queer. It is a type of relationship experienced by and available to anybody regardless of their sexual orientation, romantic orientation, or monogamy. The people involved in a queerplatonic relationship may consider themselves partners, life-partners, a couple, a triad, or any other term that implies the relationship is meaningful, committed and intimate. Because queerplatonic relationships are not based on exclusivity, a participant of the relationship may have multiple QPPs and exclusive relationships (romantic or sexual) with a third party not involved in the QR.
 
Queerplatonic partners (QPs or QPPs) are sometimes referred to as "zucchini.” This was originally a joke within the aromantic asexual community, underscoring the lack of words in mainstream relationship discourse to signify meaningful relationships that do not follow the standard and expected sexual/romantic norms, and frustration with the erasure of other kinds of intimacy, which were perceived as equally valuable to the sexual/romantic model.
 
Due to the controversy surrounding the reclamation of "queer", an alternative to queerplatonic is "quasiplatonic" or "quirkyplatonic".
 
In some situations the people involved can show physical affection such as cheek kisses, pecks on the lips, holding hands, sitting on each other's lap, seeing each other naked, cuddling and literally sleeping together. To QPPs, these activities are not necessarily romantic nor sexual/erotic.

 


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