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Definition
 

The word “bisexual” describes a person who is romantically, emotionally, and/or sexually attracted to or involved with people of either sex or gender. As a sexual orientation, it can be further defined as an innate, enduring, inherent, and immutable pattern of feelings and behavior in which a person has an affectional, romantic, emotional, spiritual, sensual, and/or sexual affinity or desire for both men and women.

A bisexual person possesses the potential to feel sexually attracted to and to engage in romantic or sexual relationships with people of either sex.

If a person is bisexual, he or she can be attracted to both genders equally, or he or she can be attracted to one gender more than the other, and the degree of attraction may vary over time. So, when entering into an emotional, romantic, or sexual relationship, most bisexuals actually look at the person and not the gender. You might sometimes hear bisexuals described as "going both ways."

 

As an understanding of bisexual behavior developed, other terms have been used to help define bisexuality. Some individuals may describe themselves as "pansexual," "omnisexual," or "heteroflexible." Some individuals may characterize their sexuality as "fluid." One source describes bisexuality as, "the gift to love someone for who they are regardless of gender."

Bisexuals should not be thought of as "sexually confused," "undecided," or "on the fence." Bisexuality is not a transition phase where a person is still trying make up his or her mind or trying to decide whether he or she is gay or straight. Instead, it is separate and distinct sexual orientation. 

 

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Bisexuality is a widely misunderstood sexual orientation about which there are numerous myths and stereotypes. In light of this, it might be helpful to explore some of the key findings that scientists have uncovered about bisexuality that are not only informative, but can also speak to some of the biggest misperceptions about it.

Bisexuality is real, and it’s not the same as being gay or lesbian. A lot of people deny the existence of bisexuality and assume that everyone who identifies as bisexual is secretly gay. However, the results of several studies reveal that bisexuality involves a distinct pattern of sexual interest and arousal compared to homosexuality.

Women are more likely to identify as bisexual than men. The results of several national US surveys have consistently found that more women than men identify as bisexual. According to the National Survey of Sexual Health & Behavior, 2.6% of men identified as bisexual compared to 3.6% of women.

   

 

Bisexuals experience prejudice from heterosexual persons, as well as gays and lesbians. Bisexual persons are frequently the targets of prejudice, particularly bisexual men. They are often stereotyped as being sexually confused and highly promiscuous.

Contrary to common stereotypes, bisexual people do not necessarily have higher sex drives than everyone else. A 2007 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, that featured a sample of over 200,000 participants, revealed that bisexuals have sex drives that are similar to everyone else.

 

If a bisexual person falls in love, they are equally capable of monogamy, just like the rest of society. Bisexuality is not the manifestation of relational cowardice. Bisexuality isn’t a temporary phase. It is a biological phenomenon in the same manner and fashion as heterosexuality.

Being bisexual does not necessarily mean that you are equally attracted to both men and women. Being bisexual involves a capacity for attraction to men and women, but attraction to each sex does not necessarily have to be equally strong.

 

 

American Institute of Bisexuality

NY Times Mag: Quest to Prove Bisexuality Exists

Info: Pansexual

Video: What Does it Mean to Be Sexually Fluid?

Psychology Today: Bisexuality Myths Debunked

Book List: Required Reading for Bisexuals

Info: Sexual Orientation

 

Random Thoughts on Bisexuality

 

"I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted - romantically and/or sexually - to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree."

-Robyn Ochs

 

“Freud's most radical legacy is the one that is the least actualized. After years of evolution on the topic, he came to the conclusion that any exclusive monosexual interest (regardless of whether it was heterosexual or homosexual) was neurotic. In a sense Freud is saying what second-wave critic Kate Millet said a half-century late: Homosexuality was invented by a straight world dealing with its own bisexuality. By the end of his writings, in 1937, Freud was downright blythe about bisexuality: Every human being's libido is distributed, either in a manifest or a latent fashion, over objects of both sexes.”
-Jennifer Baumgardner, Look Both Ways: Bisexual Politics

“People sometimes tell me that they're baffled by bisexuality. They are convinced that having sex with women is totally different from having sex with men. But it isn't. No more than having sex with anyone is totally different from having sex with anyone else.”
-Ariel Levy, The Rules Do Not Apply

“Whether it's men or women, it doesn't really matter. The human race is filled with passion and lust. And to coin terms like heterosexuality, homosexuality or even bisexuality makes no sense to me. You are human. You love who you love. That should be enough. No labels. No stigmas. Nothing. Just be to be.”
-Krista Ritchie, Kiss the Sky

 

 

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