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Aging as LGBTQ

"I wanna see more queer and trans folks making it into their elder years, surrounded by community and love. And also, I wanna be a cutie elder queer. Still over-blushing, still protesting, still laughing, still raging, still trying to keep plants alive, still learning, still missing a patch of hair when I shave, still curious, still learning to pickle, still verbose, still real radical."
-Yalla Rozan

 

LGBTQ elders face many challenges as they age. A lifetime of discrimination, lost wages, lack of family recognition, and more add up to create substantial difficulties for most LGBTQ seniors.

 

America’s population is ageing: by 2050, the number of people over the age of 65 will double to 83.7 million (from 43.1 million in 2012). While the public perception of LGBTQ people is largely one of a young, affluent community, there are more than 2.7 million LGBTQ adults ages 50 or older living in communities across the country, one in five of whom are older adults of color. A new report released in May 2017 by the Movement Advancement Project (MAP) and SAGE, Understanding Issues Facing LGBTQ Older Adults, provides a snapshot of the demographics of LGBTQ elders, an aging community that is diverse in terms of race and ethnicity, gender, and age.

 

 

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The report details the many challenges facing LGBTQ older people as they age. Health and wellbeing, economic security, and social connections are among the cornerstones for successful ageing, yet these are areas in which many LGBTQ elders face substantial barriers stemming from current discrimination as well as the accumulation of a lifetime of legal and structural discrimination, social stigma, and isolation.

 

The report offers high-level recommendations for addressing key disparities facing LGBTQ older adults including:

 

--Passing comprehensive employment and housing nondiscrimination protections prohibiting discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity.

--Ensuring that all senior housing, assisted living, and nursing homes have explicit nondiscrimination policies and train staff on competently serving LGBTQ elders.

--Revising federal and state programs to recognize the relationships of same-sex couples in which one partner died before the freedom to marry became available.

--Designating LGBTQ elders as an underserved population within the Older Americans Act and within the Department of Health and Human Services, allowing government agencies to more easily target services

--Passing the Restoration of Honor Act to make veterans discharged because of their sexual orientation or gender identity eligible for a number of programs, services, and benefits available at the state level.

 

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Bisexual Elders

 

 

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Social Security Benefits for Same-Sex Couples

In a historic ruling, in November 2021, same-sex partners and spouses can now claim Social Security survivors’ benefits. In 2018, Lambda Legal sued the Social Security Administration over policies that prevented surviving partners from receiving Social Security benefits.

Under the policy, a surviving partner could only apply for benefits if they had been married for nine months before their partner’s death. However, in states where gay marriage had recently been legalized, this was impossible. Plus, in the past, many surviving partners couldn’t file for benefits because their states prohibited them from being married at all.

 



Lambda Legal filed two lawsuits on behalf of same-sex couples who met either of these parameters. In 2020, the federal district courts in Arizona and Washington ruled the policies of excluding same-sex couples from survivors’ benefits were unconstitutional. But then-President Donald Trump appealed both cases.

On Nov. 1, 2021, the Justice Department and Social Security Administration, under the leadership of President Joe Biden, dismissed the appeals. Now, there is no “waiting period” to qualify for survivors’ benefits and same-sex partners will have equal access to Social Security survivors’ benefits.

“This is a historic development with immense implications: survivor’s benefits are now equally available to everyone, including potentially thousands of same-sex partners who could not marry their loved ones and may have thought it was futile to apply,” Lambda Legal Counsel Peter Renn said in a statement on the Lambda Legal website.

 

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Seemingly Harmless Habits That May Increase Your Risk Of Dementia

Your Risk Of Dementia...
These common behaviors could be affecting your brain health....

Dementia is the loss of memory, language, problem-solving and other abilities that require thinking. It is often caused by Alzheimer’s disease, and mainly affects those 65 and older. Unfortunately, dementia can be severe enough that it interferes with daily life, and those who have dementia often require additional care.

“Dementia is a group of conditions characterized by impairment of at least two brain functions, such as judgment and memory loss,” explained Blair Steel, a psychologist at Carrara Treatment, Wellness & Spa. “Symptoms of dementia include forgetfulness, limited social skills and impairment in thinking that interferes with daily functioning.”

So what causes dementia? Your age, family history, race and ethnicity, heart health and history of a traumatic brain injury are all factors that increase your risk of developing the condition. But another big category is lifestyle habits. So while you can’t control your genetics, there are a few seemingly harmless behaviors you may be doing that can increase your risk.
 

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Not moving your body enough or sitting for too long...
 

Exercising ― aerobic exercise, especially ― can help reduce cognitive impairment and dementia risk. Long-term, regular exercise can affect your brain and your overall health in a positive way, especially if you’re nearing 60. Getting your body moving daily is something you can do to decrease your risk of dementia.

Steel said “being inactive does a number on the brain.” Just like other muscles, a good thing to remember is, “If you don’t use it, you lose it.”

Not socializing enough...


Social health plays a role in the development of dementia; an active and socially integrated lifestyle can protect against the disease. Stimulating the brain with social interaction is important for everyone, especially as they age. Though, in the age of social media, socializing has become a broader term.

“We spend a lot of hours on social media, however this likely does not stimulate the brain’s experience of connection as much as socializing in person,” Steel explained.

Poor social health can overstimulate the body’s stress response through increased levels of the stress hormone cortisol, raise blood pressure and decrease blood flow to vital organs amongst other health issues.
 

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Getting inadequate sleep...


Sleep disturbances and dementia are two common and significant health problems in older adults. (Let’s face it, sleep tends to be put on the back burner.) Whether due to family obligations, work or staying up late on your phone or watching TV, there’s always something in the way of adequate sleep.

Unfortunately, sleep patterns in earlier life may contribute to later problems. If you’re having trouble sleeping, or not sleeping at all, sleep deprivation could increase your dementia risk.

“Avoid screens and light after a certain hour and try to not reach for your phone if your sleep is interrupted,” Steel suggested. Try unplugging at least 30 minutes before bed.

Being chronically stressed...


According to the Alzheimer’s Society, stress is linked to dementia because when you’re stressed and cortisol is released, it can create problems with your memory. The negative effects of stress, particularly chronic stress, on the brain can lead to cognitive decline due to prolonged elevations of cortisol — which plays an important role in how your body responds to stress.

Working to reduce your stress through healthy habits can be key to mitigating this risk. Exercise, creative activities or hobbies, spending time with loved ones, meditation, watching a good show or reading a good book can all help you relax.

Additionally, “try to be flexible with your reactions and avoid the ‘my way or the highway’ mentality, which can be common in older adults,” Steel said.
 

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Consuming excessive amounts of alcohol...


The Alzheimer’s Society also says there’s a specific type of alcohol-related dementia that is considered alcohol-related brain damage (ARBD). This is due to the damage of the brain caused by drinking too much alcohol on a regular basis, usually over many years.

Those with this type of dementia may have issues like cooking a meal, remembering things, thinking things through, and even struggle with more complex tasks like managing finances.

Eating an unbalanced diet...


Research shows a diet high in ultra-processed foods can increase dementia risk in adults. While no one’s diet is perfect, ensuring that the majority of the time you are sticking with well-balanced, healthy meals can be extremely beneficial.

Try eating leafy greens, berries, whole grains, beans, nuts, fish, and healthy fats like olive oil while limiting red meat, sweets, cheese, butter, and fast and fried food. These are healthy options that optimize your brain health.

You can lower your risk of dementia by altering the habits mentioned above, but you should also speak to a doctor if you’re struggling with your cognition.

“If you or a loved one is experiencing signs of dementia, it is important to speak to a doctor and get an assessment,” Steel said. Your primary care physician will be able to assess you, and if needed, refer you to a specialist.

[Source: Sydney Wingfield, Huff Post, Jan 2024]

 

 

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Embracing the Rich Tapestry of LGBTQ Elderly Lives

Silent Pioneers...

 

As society progresses, it's crucial to recognize and celebrate the diverse experiences of all its members. Among the often overlooked groups are LGBTQ elderly individuals, whose unique journeys reflect not only the progress made in LGBTQ rights but also the challenges they continue to face in their later years.

Many LGBTQ elderly individuals have lived through an era when being open about one's sexual orientation or gender identity was fraught with challenges. These silent pioneers navigated a world that often denied them the freedom to express their true selves. As a result, they may have faced discrimination, social isolation, and even legal persecution.

 

 
 

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Resilience in the Face of Adversity...

Despite these challenges, LGBTQ elderly individuals have demonstrated remarkable resilience. They have weathered societal stigma, fought for their rights, and paved the way for the acceptance and understanding that younger generations now experience more readily. The struggles they faced have shaped their resilience and strength, contributing to the ongoing fight for equality.

Unique Health Concerns...

LGBTQ elderly individuals often face unique health concerns related to their experiences and the historical context in which they lived. Many may have postponed seeking healthcare due to fear of discrimination, leading to delayed diagnoses and treatment. Consequently, the LGBTQ elderly community may experience higher rates of certain health issues, such as mental health concerns and chronic conditions.

Building Inclusive Spaces...

Creating inclusive spaces for LGBTQ elderly individuals is crucial to addressing their specific needs. This includes healthcare environments that are sensitive to diverse identities, support groups tailored to their experiences, and housing options that prioritize inclusivity and safety. Building a community that respects and acknowledges their unique stories fosters a sense of belonging and connection.
 

 

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Importance of Intergenerational Connections...

Fostering intergenerational connections is key to breaking down stereotypes and building understanding between different age groups within the LGBTQ community. By sharing their stories, experiences, and wisdom, LGBTQ elderly individuals can provide valuable insights to younger generations, creating a more cohesive and supportive community.

Legal Protections and Advocacy...

Ensuring legal protections for LGBTQ elderly individuals is an essential aspect of fostering an inclusive society. This includes protections against discrimination in healthcare, housing, and other services. Advocacy efforts must continue to address the specific needs of this community and work towards a future where no one faces discrimination based on their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Recognizing and celebrating the lives of LGBTQ elderly individuals is an integral part of embracing diversity within our society. By acknowledging their struggles, resilience, and contributions, we can build a more inclusive and compassionate world for everyone, regardless of age, sexual orientation, or gender identity. It is through understanding and unity that we can ensure a brighter and more equitable future for all members of the LGBTQ community, regardless of their stage in life.
 

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Report on LGBTQ Aging

The Williams Institute at the UCLA School of Law published a report, entitled, "LGBTQ Aging: A review of research findings, needs, and policy implications."  This report, authored by Soon Kyu Choi and Ilan H. Meyer, reviews current research on LGBTQ older adults and provides recommendations for future research and policies that would address the needs of LGBTQ seniors. Here is a summary of their findings:

--LGBTQ older adults face barriers to receiving formal health care and social support that heterosexual, cisgender adults do not.
--Financial instability and legal issues are major concerns among LGBTQ seniors.
--LGBTQ older adults should be recognized by the Older Americans Act as a “greatest social need” group.

This report is a review of the existing literature of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer older adults and provides recommendations for future research and policy needs.

Although definitions vary, LGBTQ older adults include the population of sexual and gender minorities over the age of 50. With no census count available of LGBTQ older adults residing in the United States, investigators have used various methods to estimate the size of the population. One study estimates that there are over 2.4 million LGBTQ adults over age 50 in the United States, with the expectations that this number will double to over 5 million by 2030. Another study estimated that there are between 1.75 to 4 million LGBTQ adults above age 60. Without a national probability sample, accurate characterization of this population is difficult. However, numerous community-based, non-probability studies provide invaluable insight into the experiences of LGBTQ older adults and show that LGBTQ older adults face unique challenges to aging that their heterosexual, cisgender peers do not. Key findings from this review include the following:

 

 

LGBTQ Senior Experience

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97 Year Old Gay Veteran Attacked While Helping Someone on the Street

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Social Disparities

LGBTQ older adults face barriers to receiving formal health care and social support that heterosexual, cisgender adults do not. Several studies report LGBTQ older adults avoid or delay health care, or conceal their sexual and gender identity from health providers and social service professionals for fear of discrimination due to their sexual orientation and gender identity.
 

Compared to heterosexual cisgender adults, LGBTQ older adults have fewer options for informal care. LGBTQ older adults are more likely to be single or living alone and less likely to have children to care for them than non-LGBTQ elders. Studies find resilient LGBTQ older adults often rely on “families of choice” (families composed of close friends), LGBTQ community organizations, and affirmative religious groups for care and support.
 

Financial instability and legal issues are major concerns among LGBTQ seniors. Lifetime disparities in earnings, employment, and opportunities to build savings as well as discriminatory access to legal and social programs that are traditionally established to support aging adults, put LGBTQ older adults at greater financial risk than their non-LGBTQ peers.


LGBTQ older adults have experienced and continue to experience discrimination due to their sexual orientation and gender identity. Studies find LGBTQ older adults experienced high rates of lifetime discrimination and physical and verbal abuse in relation to their sexual and gender minority identity. One study found that LGBTQ seniors searching for retirement homes experienced unfavorable differential treatment (less housing availability, higher pricing) compared to non-LGBTQ seniors.

 


 

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Now You See Me: Film About Group of Elder Lesbians

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Never Too Late: I Started Transitioning at 58

Advocate: Portraits of LGBTQ Seniors

Video Talk: Old Gays Share Their Coming Out Stories

Center for Positive Aging: Resources for Older LGBTQ Persons

Menopause Rhapsody: Parody Song for Every Aging Queen

 

Health Disparities

LGBTQ older adults have worse mental and physical health compared to heterosexual and cisgender older adults. LGBTQ older adults have higher risks of mental health issues, disability, and higher rates of disease and physical limitations than their heterosexual counterparts. Compared to their cisgender peers, transgender older adults also face a higher risk for poor physical health, disability, and depressive symptoms, many of which are associated with experiences of victimization and stigma.


Studies also find that
LGBTQ older adults have a higher prevalence of engaging in risky health behavior, such as smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, and risky sexual behavior compared to non-LGBTQ older adults. However, LGBTQ older adults have higher rates of HIV testing than non-LGBTQ seniors.


Among
LGBTQ older adults, HIV-positive LGBTQ elders have worse overall mental and physical health, disability, and poorer health outcomes, and a higher likelihood of experiencing stressors as well as barriers to care, than HIV-negative LGBTQ elders.

 


 

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Story Corps: Two Retired Vets Celebrate Love

University of North Dakota: Resources for the Aging LGBTQ Community

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Advocate: Portraits of LGBTQ Seniors

 

 

Future Research and Policy Needs

While community-based, non-probability studies provide important insight, they may not accurately represent the
LGBTQ older adult population. Probability-based studies are needed to accurately characterize this population and generalize findings. Only two studies in this review used representative samples (both studies used state-level data) to characterize LGBTQ older adults. To our knowledge, no probability sample of transgender older adults exists.


Subgroups within the
LGBTQ older adult population are understudied. In particular, we know little about bisexual, transgender, and intersectional subgroups (older Black lesbians; Latina transwomen). Age-group specific analysis is also needed to provide better-targeted interventions.


From a policy perspective,
LGBTQ older adults need to be recognized by the Older Americans Act (OAA) as a “greatest social need” group. This designation would open important funding avenues to prioritize services for and research of LGBTQ older adults. Other policy needs important to LGBTQ older adults are anti-discrimination legislation and expanding the definition of family to include families of choice.
LGBTQ older adults are a growing population likely in need of more frequent health care and social support. From a service perspective, culturally sensitive training for health care and social service agencies and professionals that provide support to elders could be critical in alleviating expectations of and experiences of discrimination that many LGBTQ older adults fear when seeking healthcare and professional help.

[Source: Williams Institute, UCLA School of Law, 2012]

 

 

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Still Here Bitch: Podcast for Queer Elders with Host Gerry Walker

Gay and Bisexual Men Enjoy Active Sex Lives in Their 70s, New Study Reveals

Today Show: Four Famous Old Gay Guys

LGBTQ Elders Show Resiliency Despite Barriers

Ted Brown: Gay Activist Who Spent 50 Years Fighting for LGBTQ Rights
Controlling Complications and Aging Gracefully with HIV

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Stonewall Generation Shares Perspectives

Info: LGBTQ History

At 60 Years Old, I Became Invisible: Getting Old as a Gay Man Stinks

 

 

Elderly LGBTQ Issues and Concerns
 

Unique experiences and challenges

 

Elderly LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer) individuals, like their heterosexual and cisgender counterparts, have unique experiences and challenges as they age. Many of these individuals grew up during a time when LGBTQ rights were limited, and societal attitudes were often less accepting. Consequently, they may have faced discrimination, stigma, and a lack of legal protections for their identities.

As they age, elderly LGBTQ people can encounter specific issues, including:

Healthcare Disparities: Older LGBTQ individuals may face healthcare disparities due to a history of discrimination and a lack of understanding from healthcare providers. They may also be more likely to experience certain health conditions, such as HIV/AIDS.

 


 

What it's Like to be a Gay Man at 60

50 Years After Stonewall: Stories of LGBTQ Elders

Life After Fifty as a Gay Man

Double Lives: LGBTQ Elders Tell Their Stories

At Age 90, Kenneth Felts Comes Out to His Family
LGBTQ Senior Experience

Coming Out Later in Life: 37 Years Married to a Man, Divorced, Fell in Love with a Woman

Aging in Equity: LGBTQ Elders in America

Info: LGBTQ Retirement Strategies

Never Have I Ever: Elder Gay Men Having Fun


Social Isolation: Some elderly LGBTQ individuals may have smaller support networks or may be estranged from their families due to their sexual orientation or gender identity, which can lead to increased social isolation.

Mental Health: The stigma and discrimination they experienced earlier in life can have lasting effects on their mental health. They may be more susceptible to depression and anxiety.

Housing and Economic Inequality: LGBTQ seniors may face housing discrimination, and economic disparities can be compounded by a lack of spousal and survivor benefits for same-sex couples.

Caregiving Concerns: Elderly LGBTQ individuals may be less likely to have children or traditional family structures to provide caregiving as they age, which can lead to unique challenges in seeking and receiving care.

 

  

Efforts are ongoing to address these challenges, with advocacy groups, healthcare providers, and policymakers working to create more inclusive and affirming environments for elderly LGBTQ people. It's important to recognize and support the diverse needs and experiences of this population as they age, ensuring they can live their later years with dignity and respect.

 

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Gen Silent: LGBTQ Aging Documentary

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Now You See Me: Film About Group of Elder Lesbians

Gray Gays: Aging as an LGBTQ Adult

Center for Positive Ageing: Resources for Older LGBTQ Persons

Life After Fifty as a Gay Man

LGBTQ Senior Experience

Never Too Late: I Started Transitioning at 58

 

Lessons on Resilience From LGBTQ Elders
 

“Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be, the last of life, for which the first was made."
-Robert Browning

 

Enduring hardship makes this population masters of perseverance. LGBTQ elders know a lot about resilience. They've simply had to in order to survive — and certainly to live long enough to become elders. Their wisdom offers lessons for anyone who wants to grow older with the strength of resilience or bolster this skill while the pandemic continues to challenge our lives.

Researchers studying LGBTQ elders find that the unfortunate experience of resisting homophobia and/or transphobia provides the emotional and psychological tools needed to resist ageism. Karen I. Fredriksen Goldsen uses the word "resist" to describe the way LGBTQ older adults push back against stigma. She's a professor of social work at the University of Washington and the principal investigator of the largest ongoing study of LGBTQ elders. "Not everyone, but many, resisted the kind of stigma and the obstacles that they faced and tried to create new pathways," she said.

 


 

Life After Fifty for a Gay Man

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AARP: LGBTQ Pride

78-Year-Old Man and 13-Year-Old Boy Talk About Being Gay

Menopause Rhapsody - Parody Song for Every Aging Queen

Mosaic: Older Gay Couples Documentary

Gray Gays: Aging as an LGBTQ Adult

Richard and John: Elderly Couple

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Video: Silent Pioneers

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Mark Brennan-Ing, a senior research scientist at the Brookdale Center for Healthy Aging at Hunter College in New York City, said this "crisis competence" can make LGBTQ older adults "better positioned to cope with the challenges of aging." Another tool for coping is what Brian de Vries, professor emeritus of gerontology at San Francisco State University, calls "perspective-taking." He said LGBTQ people are used to being vigilant about others' responses to them, which leads to empathy and the need, and freedom, for LGBTQ elders to "age on a path of our own creation."

That path begins with coming out. New York City psychologist Harold Kooden, 84, explores in his book "Golden Men: The Power of Gay Midlife" the connection between the dynamics of coming out and the development of skills that can be used to age successfully.  Kooden writes that aging with resilience (like the coming out experience) is about moving beyond what others want to living the life you want, from isolation to belonging to a community, and developing a sense of hope for a positive future with a feeling of pride.

 


 

Improving the Lives of LGBTQ Older Adults

Photos: Trans Elders Who Have Survived

Same Sex Couples Tell Us What it's Like to be Legally Married

Things Older Adults Can Do to Stay Connected and Overcome Isolation

Info: LGBTQ Retirement Strategies

Bill and John: More Than Ever

Stonewall Generation Shares Perspectives

Advocate: Portraits of LGBTQ Seniors

Where Do Gays Retire?
Mental Health Disparities in Older LGBTQ Populations: Research Roundup
Today Show: Four Famous Old Gay Guys


Defying Expectations
 

An attitude of defiance has served Robert Mary Clement well throughout his 95 years. An ordained priest since 1948 in the American Catholic Church, Clement founded The Church of the Beloved Disciple in 1970 — New York City's first church specifically for LGBTQ people.

Clement celebrated the first same-sex holy union at the church that July, shortly after the first march commemorating the 1969 Stonewall uprising that launched the modern LGBTQ rights movement. "I certainly was defiant and caused a number of eyebrows to go up," said Clement, now a resident of the Los Angeles LGBTQ Center's Triangle Square — a 104-unit apartment complex in Hollywood for low-income elders. His persistent attitude has served him well in his older years, especially when dealing with health issues such as having brain surgery at 89. "But I am not going to dwell on them," he said. "I'm not feeble. I am still as positive about being gay as I was back then."

Defiance also shaped the life of David Epstein, 70, Clement's husband of one year and friend of 12. A student radical in the 1960s, Epstein defied anyone who tried to put him in the box of expected heterosexuality. Epstein, too, pushes back against the negative stereotypes about people his age: "It's a choice about how we present ourselves," said Epstein, clear about his own choice. "I am not going to be that kind of old person, the one who sits down and lists his aches and pains," he said.

 


 

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Sir Ian McKellen: Pride in Aging Program to Help LGBTQ Seniors

Shatzi Weisberger: What I Want for My 90th Birthday

Still Here Bitch: Podcast for Queer Elders with Host Gerry Walker


Resilience Makes Communities
 

Community comes up often in conversations with LGBTQ elders and those who serve them. Karen Skultety, executive director of San Francisco's Openhouse, said, "resilience makes communities." Everything Openhouse does in managing 104 low-income apartments for LGBTQ residents and offering wellness, transportation and community engagement programs grows out of its commitment to supporting LGBTQ and other elders' resilience. "We believe that the power of resilience makes communities stronger, better, more powerful and richer," Skultety said.

Resisting internalized ageism is a "hard row to hoe," said Imani Woody, founder of Mary's House in Washington, D.C. and one of Next Avenue's 2019 Influencers in Aging. Mary's House (a renovated and expanded version of the house Woody grew up in) is the first of what she envisions will become a nationwide network of affordable independent living communities for LGBTQ elders of color.

 


 

90-Year-Old Shares Story of Coming Out as Gay with Pride

Center for Positive Aging: Resources for Older LGBTQ Persons

Stonewall Generation Shares Perspectives

Providing Help and Hope to LGBTQ Elders Struggling With Suicide
Double Lives: LGBTQ Elders Tell Their Stories

Video Talk: Old Gays Share Their Coming Out Stories

AARP Pride: LGBTQ Advocates See Hurdles Ahead

The Old Gays on TikTok


Woody explains that Black people know a thing or two about resilience. "People of African descent have endured enslavement, inferior legal standing in the Constitution, lynching, Jim Crow and systemic racism," Woody said. "Each generation has been told, 'Your ancestors are from Africa, where they were kings and queens, healers, and craftspeople. You are enough.'"

What we tell ourselves about our own aging matters, too. "There is a vocabulary of happy aging," said English professor emeritus Frank Galassi, 82. Galassi still teaches, currently a Zoom class for the Los Angeles LGBT Center on LGBTQ history. He said it helps to frame one's aging experience as a journey of seeking "more" (such as more wisdom, kindness, fellowship or service to others) rather than simply becoming older."I use those words mentally on a day-to-day basis," he said.

Galassi laughs recalling an incident that underscored how even words that should signify honor and respect can be used to demean an older person when coming from a place of ageism — and the humor that helps to bat them away. "It ain't easy being surrounded by millennials in West Hollywood," said Galassi. "I had the experience a few months ago — going up the street by a group of gay white men in their thirties. I heard one of them say, 'Let grandpa go by.' So as I passed, I said, 'Stay well, my grandchildren.'"  He added, "You've got to laugh."

[Source: John-Manuel Andriote, January 2021]

 

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Lessons on Resilience From LGBTQ Elders

Info: LGBTQ Retirement Strategies

Double Lives: LGBTQ Elders Tell Their Stories

At 60 Years Old, I Became Invisible: Getting Old as a Gay Man Stinks

AARP: LGBTQ Pride

“The Old Gays” are Teaching us How to Get the Most Out of Life on TikTok

SAGE Project: True Story Behind the Stonewall Rebellion

Gay Retirement Guide For Fabulous LGBTQ Financial Planning

What it's Like to be a Gay Man at 60

 


LGBTQ Seniors Overcoming Social Isolation

What can LGBTQ older adults do to stayed connected and overcome social isolation during a time when a major pandemic has made quarantine necessary and social isolation even more commonplace? Whether hunkered down with the nuclear family, a spouse, or roommates, practically everyone is feeling the pinch of curtailed interactions and relationships that are confined to the phone and video conferencing. Social isolation is a health risk for all seniors, especially older LGBTQ people. It is important to find resources to empower you to fight it.

But for older adults, the pandemic only made an existing problem worse. The CDC has called social isolation in older adults a serious public health risk. “It actually increases your risk of early death from all causes,” Dr. Erwin Tan, director of health and thought leadership at AARP, noted on a recent AARP Town Hall for the LGBTQ community. “Some people say it’s as bad as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.”


 

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92 Year Old Granddad Comes Out: Tells 70 Year Old Love Story

Sir Ian McKellen: Pride in Aging Program to Help LGBTQ Seniors

Shatzi Weisberger: What I Want for My 90th Birthday

SAGE Project: True Story Behind the Stonewall Rebellion

Gay Retirement Guide For Fabulous LGBTQ Financial Planning

Gay and Bisexual Men Enjoy Active Sex Lives in Their 70s, New Study Reveals

78-Year-Old Man and 13-Year-Old Boy Talk About Being Gay

 

And social isolation is an even bigger issue for LGBTQ elders. According to “Maintaining Dignity: Understanding and Responding to the Challenges Facing Older LGBTQ Americans,” a survey conducted by AARP, increasing social support is a major challenge. That’s particularly true of gay men and transgender/gender-expansive individuals. Gay men in the survey were far more likely to be single and living alone compared to lesbians and reported being less connected than lesbians on every relationship type tested, including friends, partners, and neighbors. Transgender people were the least likely of all to be connected to sources of social support.

However, there are resources available to help older adults recognize and overcome social isolation. These resources work particularly well for a community that has relied upon self-empowerment in its quest for liberation, by allowing individuals to take better control over their lives and ensure themselves the social support they need.

 

Here are some helpful tips from AARP to help address social isolation:

AARP: Connect2Affect Assessment

Assess how connected you are. Knowing where you are are in terms of a support network at the moment helps you understand where you need to be. Just how strong is your social support system? It may not be as strong as you think. The AARP Foundation offers a short assessment as part of its Connect2Affect program to help you identify problem areas.

 

 

AARP: Friendly Voices Program

Talk to someone. A conversation can go a long way to alleviating a sense of loneliness. Don’t discount the power of an online community as well. Even if you are staying at home most of the time, you don’t have to be cut off from other people. AARP offers their Friendly Voice program, that allows you to request a phone conversation from a trained volunteer.

 

AARP: The Mighty Community for Healthcare Challenges

Be aware of how your health affects your social connections. Isolation is a major issue for people with physical limitations that affect mobility. Hearing loss and visual impairment may also be contributors. AARP offers their The Mighty program, which is a safe, supportive online community for people facing health challenges and their caregivers.

 

AARP: Volunteer Opportunity Board

Be a volunteer. Maybe you’re feeling isolated but you don’t have the physical limitations that keep you at home most of the time. If you’re physically able, you can consider volunteering. During the pandemic, there are volunteer opportunities that require only a telephone or laptop that will still keep you connected. It’s a great way to meet people, stay active, get involved in the community, and to put your experience to good use. AARP has a Volunteer Opportunity Board that tells you about organizations in your area that lets you share your experience and interests with groups that could use your help. LGBTQ organizations also rely heavily on volunteers to keep them going. Consider reaching out to see what you can do to help your community and you will be enriched beyond measure in return.

 

[Source: LGBTQ Nation Magazine and AARP LGBTQ Foundation]

 

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LGBTQ Seniors: The Joy of Being Out

Gay Men More Sexually Active in Old Age, Study Reveals

Coming Out at 90 Years Old to My Gay Daughter
Stonewall Generation Shares Perspectives

Gay Authors Whose Stories Show Us How to Age Gracefully

Lessons on Resilience From LGBTQ Elders

Coming Out Later in Life: 37 Years Married to a Man, Divorced, Fell in Love with a Woman

Double Lives: LGBTQ Elders Tell Their Stories

Today Show: Four Famous Old Gay Guys

 

 

Older Wiser Lesbians

 

An OWL is an older wiser lesbian. This acronym, used informally to describe elderly gay women, is a slang expression referring to experienced lesbians who have personal insight of the history of the LGBTQ movement. Typically, it is a term meant as an expression of respect. Around the country, there are local social groups  and support groups for elderly gay women called OWL clubs or organizations. And there is a 2010 movie entitled "The Owls," about a group of senior lesbians.

 

 

Honor Our LGBTQ Elders

 

National Honor Our LGBTQ Elders Day is celebrated annually on May 16. It was established to draw awareness to and appreciation of the lifetime of contributions made by LGBTQ older adults. National Honor Our LGBTQ Elders Day works to unite the LGBTQ community and its allies to celebrate and thank those individuals who fought on behalf of us all. The idea for this special day was conceived in 2016, by the LGBTQ Health Resource Center of Chase Brexton Health Care, in Baltimore, Maryland. It first opened its doors in 1978 as a clinic focused exclusively on the health care of gay men, a revolutionary and much-needed concept for its time.

 

 

Danish Gay Activists

 

Axel Axgil (1915-2011) and Eigil Axgil (1922-1995) were Danish gay activists and a longtime couple. They were the first gay couple to enter into a registered partnership anywhere in the world following Denmark's legalization of same-sex partnership registration in 1989, a landmark legislation which they were instrumental in bringing about. They adopted the shared surname, Axgil, a combination of their given names, as an expression of their commitment. In 1948 they established the Danish National Association of Gays and Lesbians, Denmark's first gay rights organization. In 1989, Denmark became the first nation in the world to recognize registered partnerships for same-sex couples, nearly equal to (opposite-sex) marriage.

 

 

Together for 25 Years

 

Nick Cardello, 54, and Kurt English, 52, met in 1992 at the Washington DC Gay Pride event. They took a photograph on the National Mall to commemorate the day. In June 2017, 25 years later, they went again to the Washington DC Gay Pride event and re-created the photo they took. The photo, which went viral, was an important moment for them and their long-term relationship.  "This is so necessary. For young gays to see old gays happy, in love, and proud."  They're now married and living in Tampa, Florida.

 

 

Harvey and Jeff

 

Sometimes we sit and talk for hours in the kitchen, Jeff going about meal preparations, I sitting on a swivel counter stool, going on and on about our jobs, our past but mostly about the present and what we are experiencing. We are learning how to be honest, open, and vulnerable with each other. Yeah, often times we are in a jovial mood, telling funny stories, laughing at experiences who at the time weren't funny but now we can see the humor in them. There are times when we are both in the house, each going about our own worlds, I painting my ideas on a canvas, Jeff doing household chores or watching a cooking show on tv as he prepares his next meal for us.

 

Then there are the times when we talk very seriously, putting into words what is deep inside of us, whether painful or emotional, our hearts reaching out to each other in empathy. We are learning the importance of sharing without having to understand what the other person is experiencing. Life is not just a series of questions to be pried into, life is sharing without having to know the reason behind feelings, without having to understand. Living deeply is way more than that. The other evening, we were watching a stressful family scene in a drama and I became emotional. Not a storm of weeping, but a chord was touched deeply inside my heart as I watched the reaction of a parent towards an adult child. "Are you okay?" I nodded, unable to speak and Jeff held my hand for a long moment as the story unfolded. I'm learning love languages I did not know existed. I'm learning to wait if my curious mind wants answers now, to know even during the times when a strain seems to appear between us, everything will be okay. Not to push and pry, to insist on knowing what is going on in Jeff's mind, but to rest in the security of our concern and care, yes our deep love, for each other.

 

 

It took time to come to this place of trust. You see, we both have gone through being abandoned, having our lives turned upside down and of course, at first we didn't know if we were compatible enough for a relationship. I won't enumerate all of those experiences, enough to know they existed. However, there are no longer the periods of flight when things get strange. For I am blunt, two adults blending our lives into a close relationship has it's challenges. But this post isn't about that. To have someone know you so well you don't have to try to perform is almost uncanny. To be assured you are cherished and loved and that love is shown in hundreds of ways, both large and small, is a gift of great value. We work at it, for not everything comes naturally. "I love you more every day. I look at you and you are more handsome the longer I know you!" I hang on to these words and many more even more intimate and hold them deeply in my heart, for my man is not superfluous with words and does not throw his emotions into words lightly.


This is a smidget of my life with Jeff. I'm not asking anyone to understand, to approve or in any way even make a judgment on what I am writing. I am opening the door into my life just big enough for you to get a glimpse of what happens when two people meet and fall in love. And grow in love. Are we unique in this? I think so and yet I am also wise enough to know this kind of union exists in thousands of relationships all over the world. In relationships far different than ours. Yet, I also am wise enough to know when this happens, it is something beyond what either of us could plan on our own. Ours is a union made in heaven, we are star crossed lovers, or whatever else you may believe exists when two people are meant to be together. For me, this is marriage.

[Source: My Life With a Man by Harvey Yoder]

 

 

National Honor Our LGBTQ Elders Day

LGBTQ Seniors Tell Their Stories

78-Year-Old Man and 13-Year-Old Boy Talk About Being Gay

Jay-Z’s Mom Gloria Carter Marries Longtime Girlfriend

Providing Help and Hope to LGBTQ Elders Struggling With Suicide

At 60 Years Old, I Became Invisible: Getting Old as a Gay Man Stinks

Controling Complications and Aging Gracefully with HIV

Williams Institute Report: LGBTQ Aging

The Old Gays on TikTok

Ted Brown: Gay Activist Who Spent 50 Years Fighting for LGBTQ Rights
Lessons on Resilience From LGBTQ Elders

Info: LGBTQ History

Never Too Late: I Started Transitioning at 58

What it's Like to be a Gay Man at 60

 

Secrets for Lifelong Romance From a Gay Couple Together 25 Years

Fred Berger, 74, and his husband, Ken Merrifield, 79, both have significant birthdays in February 2022. But before then, the couple will celebrate Valentine's Day together, as they have done 24 times previously.

The two met on a windswept beach in Provincetown on a January afternoon. It wasn't just the romantic setting that sparked their mutual attraction.  Fred recalls, "It was a connection that we felt... just sort of an initial attraction. I don't know how to describe it, really."

A natural question might be how the two men came to be on that beach at all. After all, Provincetown might be a center of gay culture, but it's much more a summer destination than a wintertime haven. "Well, I was living in Boston," Fred, a retired social worker, recalls, "and Ken was living in Provincetown. And it was Martin Luther King weekend."

Picturesque as the scene might have been, the frigid wind off the ocean hastened things along. "We had a short conversation, and then we went to, I think it was my guest house." Fred recounts. "And really, yeah, we've been together since then. I moved to Provincetown about nine months later."

 


 

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Today Show: Four Famous Old Gay Guys

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Older Lesbians: Keepers of Rich History of the Lives of Gay Women

LGBTQ Seniors: The Joy of Being Out

Center for Positive Aging: Resources for Older LGBTQ Persons

Today Show: Four Famous Old Gay Guys

At Age 90, Kenneth Felts Comes Out to His Family
Video: Silent Pioneers


In the near quarter-century that's elapsed since then, the pair have traveled extensively. "Santorini, Greece," Fred says when asked about a favorite destination. But love, and life together, have been the biggest adventure of all.

"You do make a lot of adjustments," Fred notes. "I think one thing we learned is to stop trying to change the other person. Stop seeing their faults and wanting them to be more like you, and just accept each other. And I know that sounds easy to say, but I think it's really significant."

 

"It's a lifelong project," Ken chimes in.  "A lot of our interests are similar, but our personalities are not similar," Fred adds, "so that's where the acceptance comes in. But," he adds, "we complement each other. We balance each other out. It works."  Such relationship success doesn't happen without mindfulness and a handful of foundational principles. For Fred and Ken, those came down to just a few essentials.  "I think honesty is one of the best qualities of Fred," Ken volunteers.

"Honesty, trust, acceptance," Fred adds, going on to explain that efforts to cultivate those qualities in their relationship include more than just the two of them. That acceptance, he says, expanded to include "all the people around us — Ken's family, and my family."  Though Ken was married to a woman in his younger days, "it was mainly because he wanted to have kids," Fred explains. "So, they were married about seven years, and then they divorced, and Ken was always very open with his kids. He has a gay son who came out when he was about 16."
 

 

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Coming Out Later in Life: 37 Years Married to a Man, Divorced, Fell in Love with a Woman

LGBTQ Aging: A Question of Identity

Resources for Transgender Seniors

Frightening and Encouraging: Being an Older LGBTQ Person

What is Was Like Being Gay in the 1940s

92 Year Old Granddad Comes Out: Tells 70 Year Old Love Story

Sir Ian McKellen: Pride in Ageing Program to Help LGBTQ Seniors

Shatzi Weisberger: What I Want for My 90th Birthday

SAGE Project: True Story Behind the Stonewall Rebellion

 

And there's more to the family saga: Fred recounts how, after Ken moved out, a friend of his wife "moved in. And they've been in a committed relationship for 35 years!"  Fred details that "Ken has three kids. When we met, they were already in college, and we never lived with them, but they're really great people, and they're pretty much my family as well. We're very close."

So essential are those family bonds that when the couple was asked if any particular Valentine's Day stands out for them from the last quarter-century, it's not an intimate getaway or a trip to some distant locale that they recall.  "Two years ago, Ken's gay son got married on Valentine's Day," Fred says. "That was really special for everybody."

Honesty, trust, acceptance. It sounds like a winning formula, but haven't they also shaped one another over the years? "I think so," Fred allows. "People say couples grow to look alike. Especially while traveling, people first meeting us have thought we were brothers or twins. A couple of times, recently, they asked if Ken was the father and I was the son, though there's only five years' difference!"

That admission prompts some hearty laughter, but Fred addresses the fact that while time might make a couple more closely resemble each other, it also, inevitably, involves health issues.  "The big change has been in recent years," Fred elaborates. "Ken has the diagnosis of Parkinson's, and I'm his caretaker. And that has brought us really close. And just a few months ago, we moved into senior housing together. I'm still a caretaker, but it's a different way of living now."

 



COVID made a move necessary, Fred explains. Both men got sick during the pandemic, and Fred couldn't keep on as caretaker without help. Even before they got ill, the men had contemplated senior housing.  "We live in Fort Lauderdale, and we have lived here for 17 years," Fred explains. "I had visited a place that was new about a year or so ago, and it was a very short distance from where we lived before." As Fred recovered from his bout with COVID, "one of Ken's daughters came down and did all the research, visited the place, looked at the specific room they were interested in."

Now Fred and Ken reside at Belmont Village Senior Living Fort Lauderdale.  Given the too-common stories of LGBTQ elders facing disparities and even bias-driven abuse, was there concern around how welcoming their new home would be?  "As far as being gay here, we've been totally comfortable," Fred says. "There's not been a hint of any kind of non-acceptance. So it was a very good decision."

Happy 25th Valentine's Day together, Fred and Ken!

[Source: Kilian Melloy, Edge Media Network, Feb 2022]

 

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LGBTQ Elders Share Words of Advice and Wisdom
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LGBTQ Seniors: The Joy of Being Out

Lessons on Resilience From LGBTQ Elders

Double Lives: LGBTQ Elders Tell Their Stories

Today Show: Four Famous Old Gay Guys

AARP: LGBTQ Pride

78-Year-Old Man and 13-Year-Old Boy Talk About Being Gay

Frightening and Encouraging: Being an Older LGBTQ Person

Queer Elders and Lessons Learned: AIDS Crisis and Coronavirus




Aging Back Into the Closet

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer older adults are pioneers who bravely pushed open the doors to coming out. It is unconscionable that many of these leaders of social justice are forced to retreat into the closet as they age. The troubling reality is that the US lacks a complete understanding of the LGBTQ senior community and is particularly unprepared for the needs of LGBTQ older adults at the intersection of multiple disadvantaged populations, such as LGBTQ seniors who are people of color, disabled, living with HIV/AIDS, undocumented immigrants or socioeconomically marginalized. Many LGBTQ seniors fear that the health-care system is judgmental and have experienced discriminatory care or lack access to culturally competent ageing services. To address this crisis, the US must adopt a new perspective that emphasizes health, rather than just health care. All sectors of society must come together with a renewed sense of social responsibility that focuses on social determinants of health.  They need to adopt a holistic view of everyday factors that impact the health, economic and social well-being of LGBTQ seniors. 

 

Eliminating LGBTQ health disparities and providing more personal and equitable care to LGBTQ populations depends on overcoming a primary obstacle: Many LGBTQ patients are uncomfortable discussing sexual orientation or gender identity with health-care providers, and many providers need training on these discussions. Consequently, LGBTQ patients often forgo prevention screenings or seek care late in their illnesses or diseases, and clinicians lack information that helps in making a diagnosis and recommending treatment.

 

 

LGBTQ Aging: A Question of Identity

Story Corps: Two Retired Vets Celebrate Love

Gen Silent: LGBTQ Aging Documentary

Pandemic Inspires 90-Year-Old to Finally Come Out as Gay
Now You See Me: Film About Group of Elder Lesbians

Gray Gays: Aging as an LGBTQ Adult

Williams Institute Report: LGBTQ Aging

Advocate: Portraits of LGBTQ Seniors

Video Talk: Old Gays Share Their Coming Out Stories

Old Lesbians Organizing for Change

Video: Silent Pioneers

 

Research has found that more than one fifth of LGBTQ older adults have not disclosed their sexual orientation or gender identity status to their primary physician. Almost 20 percent of lesbian, gay, and bisexual seniors and more than 50 percent of transgender seniors fear that they will be treated differently, and almost 35 percent of lesbian, gay, and bisexual seniors and more than 60 percent of transgender seniors have encountered a health-care provider who was unaware of their health needs. These factors contribute to LGBTQ adults (24 percent) being more likely than heterosexuals (18 percent) to receive services in emergency rooms.

 

 Medical care influences only about 10 percent of health status. The truly powerful determinants are genetics, behaviors and social circumstances. For many LGBTQ seniors, numerous factors complicate the path to health security, such as low likelihood of biological family assistance during health crises, lack of health insurance or same-sex partner retiree benefits, low incomes and high rates of poverty, geographic locations without LGBTQ-welcoming support systems, and social isolation for those who are single, live alone or do not have children. Addressing these determinants is critical to finding sustainable solutions for responding to LGBTQ older adults' health needs. There are inspiring examples of upstream approaches to addressing the health needs of the LGBTQ senior community. They represent advancement of social justice for the LGBTQ community, yet we have more to do. We have what it takes: skills, knowledge, caring, determination and, most importantly, a passion for doing the right thing. Now is the time for all members of society to come together to help prevent LGBTQ older adults from ageing back into the closet.

 

[Source: Claire Pomeroy, Lasker Foundation, January 2014]

 


 

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LGBTQ Seniors: The Joy of Being Out

Frightening and Encouraging: Being an Older LGBTQ Person

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Older Lesbians: Keepers of Rich History of the Lives of Gay Women

Elderly Gay WWII Veteran Attacked and Robbed

Never Have I Ever: Elder Gay Men Having Fun

Ted Brown: Gay Activist Who Spent 50 Years Fighting for LGBTQ Rights
Double Lives: LGBTQ Elders Tell Their Stories

Ageism Takes Heavy Toll on LGBTQ Seniors

Video Talk: Together for 54 Wonderful Years

90 Year Old Man Reveals Long Struggle With Coming Out

 

 

Lessons on Resilience From LGBTQ Elders

PBS: Finding Care For LGBTQ Seniors

For Many Gay Men, It’s The Loneliness That’s A Killer

HRC: Honoring LGBTQ Elders Day LGBTQ Seniors Tell Their Stories

Info: LGBTQ History

Center for Positive Aging: Resources for Older LGBTQ Persons

Never Have I Ever: Elder Lesbians Having Fun

Advocate: No One Will Care for LGBTQ Seniors But Themselves

Elder Lesbians Share Coming Out Stories

Menopause Rhapsody - Parody Song for Every Aging Queen

Queer Elders Tell Us About the Greatest Loves of Their Lives

Resources for Transgender Seniors

APA Info: LGBTQ Aging Facts

 

LGBTQ Conference on Aging

Gay seniors, like seniors in general, worry about safe housing, good health care and having enough money in retirement.  But according to those who attended the first White House conference devoted to gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and queer ageing, held at the University of Miami in May 2012, they also face unique obstacles because of discrimination, health-care inequities and fear of retaliation. The White House LGBTQ Conference on Aging was the first-ever conference dedicated to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) ageing issues.  Sponsored by SAGE (Services and Advocacy for GLBT Elders), it was hosted by The White House Office of Public Engagement, in partnership with the University of Miami Center on Ageing.  It met at the University of Miami Miller School of Medicine, where it provided advocates, community leaders, and members of the public an opportunity to engage with the Obama Administration on the health, housing, and security needs of ageing members of the LGBTQ community.

 


 

LGBTQ Elders Show Resiliency Despite Barriers

Video Talk: Old Gays Share Their Coming Out Stories

Older Queer Voices: The Intimacy of Survival

Sage Advice to Young Queers From a Gay Elder

Williams Institute Report: LGBTQ Aging

Center for Positive Aging: Resources for Older LGBTQ Persons

Elder Lesbians Try New Lesbian Slang

AARP Pride: LGBTQ Advocates See Hurdles Ahead

Gen Silent: LGBTQ Aging Documentary

78-Year-Old Man and 13-Year-Old Boy Talk About Being Gay


Elderly LGBTQ People

Despite advances in LGBTQ civil rights, many older adult care providers never stop to consider that their older clients may be lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ).  And sometimes those who do know may not know how to provide services in culturally-sensitive ways.  As a result, LGBTQ older adults often avoid seeking needed services out of fear of discrimination. The tendency for LGBTQ older adults to go "back in the closet" is particularly pronounced in situations where they are most vulnerable, such as when accessing home health care or residing in assisted living or residential care facilities. One study indicated that LGBTQ older adults may be as much as five times less likely to access needed health and social services because of their fear of discrimination from the very people who should be helping them.

 

This type of social isolation has an enormous impact in the health and well-being of LGBTQ older adults. With LGBTQ older adults twice as likely to live alone than heterosexual older adults, more than four times as likely to have no children, the informal caregiving support we assume is in place for older adults may not be there for LGBTQ elders.  LGBTQ people face a number of particular challenges as they age. They often do not have access to adequate health care, affordable housing and other social services that they need due to institutionalized heterosexism and transphobia.  Mainstream senior providers have limited information or training in how to appropriately work with and serve our diverse communities. Existing regulations and proposed policy changes in programs like Social Security or Medicare, which impact millions of LGBTQ elders, are discussed without LGBTQ views and interests as part of the debate.

 

LGBTQ Seniors Tell Their Stories

Today Show: Four Famous Old Gay Guys

LGBTQ Seniors: The Joy of Being Out

Frightening and Encouraging: Being an Older LGBTQ Person

Bill and John: More Than Ever

Lessons on Resilience From LGBTQ Elders

Old Lesbians Organizing for Change

Aging in Equity: LGBTQ Elders in America

LGBTQ Aging: A Question of Identity

 



Wellness Challenges of LGBTQ Seniors

There are many challenges faced by the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer elderly community. Family and support networks can be critical to the wellbeing of the elderly. Due to homophobia and other factors, LGBTQ elderly may not have strong ties to traditional social support networks such as adult children to provide care, extended family or faith-based support, and frequently end up relying on friends and service agencies. 

 

A recent Met Life survey noted that 27% of LGBTQ baby boomers reported great concern about discrimination as they age and less than half expressed strong confidence that they will be treated “with dignity and respect” by healthcare professionals. Financial challenges include inability to transfer assets such as social security, Medicare, Medicaid and pensions to the surviving partner. The same Met Life survey indicated that 51% of LGBTQ Baby Boomers indicated they have yet to complete wills that spell out their long term and end of life wishes. This is of concern since LGBTQ partnerships frequently are not recognized legally in matters of health care decisions and finances.

 

Center for American Progress: Protecting our LGBTQ Elders
University of North Dakota: Resources for the Aging LGBTQ Community

Controlling Complications and Aging Gracefully with HIV

The Old Gays on TikTok

Resources for Transgender Seniors

Richard and John: Elderly Couple

LGBTQ Celebs in Their 50s Who Are Getting Better With Age

Gray Gays: Aging as an LGBTQ Adult
Elder Lesbians Watch Hayley Kiyoko

 

Message for LGBTQ Seniors

If any of you are at least 50 or older, you, along with me, can remember how important it was to keep your gay secret. Of course, before the 70's there weren't any polite words like gay. All the standard insults were there. Being homosexual was the epitome of perversion and degradation.  It was something never spoken of in any type of polite or common conversation.  For example, before the early 70's, New York had a law that prohibited any bar or club from serving alcohol to a homosexual. Of course, most gay men passed easily. Imagine not being able to legally get a drink in a public bar like the other straight patrons. This was the law that the police used to back up their bar raids. When things were slow out on the streets, they would just get prepared with the paddy wagons and go raid a couple of known gay hangouts, arrest and fine the patrons, close and fine the bar owner, and call it a night. Imagine kids, being hustled out of a bar and arrested for being gay and having a drink! In Atlantic City there were gay clubs but you couldn't dance or touch in any fashion. Even when dancing became permissible, you were not allowed to touch because that would get a club closed down and fined. Try to imagine it.
 


 

Older Lesbian Couple: Happy for 30 Years

Video Talk: Old Gays Share Their Coming Out Stories

Ageism Takes Heavy Toll on LGBTQ Seniors
Video: This is What 54 Years of Unwavering Love Looks Like
Lessons on Resilience From LGBTQ Elders

Video: Silent Pioneers

Williams Institute Report: LGBTQ Aging

Richard and John: Elderly Couple
Things Older Adults Can Do to Stay Connected and Overcome Isolation


One night in 1969 (yes only 30 years ago) in New York's Greenwich Village at the Stonewall Inn, the police pulled one of their many gay bar raids and all hell broke loose. The fight started and continued for several nights. Gay Liberation as a national struggle was born.  I remember in 1972 (I was 22 at the time) tuning in to The David Susskind Show because he was having a panel of lesbians on to discuss being gay and gay liberation. You young people won't remember but, at that time, talk shows were not like they are today. The David Susskind show was a serious show with serious and informative discussions. The audiences at the talk shows were adult and quiet and sometimes allowed to ask questions at specific times. There was nothing like the ridiculous carrying-on that you see all the time on the Jerry Springer Show and the like.  Anyway it was the first time I had ever seen such an open discussion on TV. Where I grew up, I was absolutely certain I was the only gay man within many miles. I watched that show on every channel it appeared for a whole week. Being that there was no such thing as a video recorder, I taped it on cassette tape. I still have it and listen to it at least once a year. I had to make a copy of it about 3 years ago as the tape was getting too old and fragile. It still stirs me like it did 30 years ago.

 

Things have changed and we are not so much the filthiest things on the planet. However, as we all hear and see all the time now, the hatred is still very much alive and as vicious. It's just all out in the open. The old myths about "queers" are still going strong. Kids, let me reassure you that these self-righteous bastards will do anything to send us back into nonexistence. We see that in the news all the time. This year Oregon will be voting on an antigay measure for the 32nd time. They are relentless and we have to be also. Don't take it for granted that someone else will do the fighting for you. We all need to do this together in any legal fashion that we are able. We deserve everything that the law grants to them. Don't wait expecting them to someday get nice to us. Your society still would rather you didn't exist.  And for us older people, we must not allow ourselves to just sit back figuring that we don't have to bother because it's up to the younger folks. They need our voices as much as we need theirs. Do something to help us all become equal citizens.

 

[Source: Gianni, Tampa Bay Coalition, 1999]



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Same Sex Couples Tell Us What it's Like to be Legally Married

LGBTQ Seniors: The Joy of Being Out

Gay and Lesbian Association of Retiring Persons

Edith & Thea: A Love Story for the Ages

Center for Positive Aging: Resources for Older LGBTQ Persons

Plight of Elder LGBTQ People

Info: LGBTQ Retirement Strategies

Challenges of Coming Out Late in Life
Frightening and Encouraging: Being an Older LGBTQ Person

Advocate: No One Will Care for LGBTQ Seniors But Themselves

Housing for LGBTQ Elders Should Be a Priority

 

Aging in Equity

“We’re coming out of an experience of being badly treated in society, and there’s no sense that treatment is going to get any better when you get older and more vulnerable within the system.”

A Vision of Healthy Aging

The growth of the nation’s older population is among the most significant demographic shifts taking place in the United States today. The “graying of America” has profound implications for health care and other senior services. As this issue takes center stage, a greater emphasis is being placed on the notion of “healthy ageing” or “successful aging."

 

Access to appropriate housing, quality health care, and supportive services are the main ingredients of ageing well, and the exponential rise in the number of older Americans will challenge and transform the systems charged with providing these services. At the same time, the growing number of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) seniors (and their increasing degree of openness and demands for fair and equal treatment) are further challenging the elder care system to meet the needs of all seniors, sparking transformations that are long overdue.

 

Where Do Gays Retire?
Mental Health Disparities in Older LGBTQ Populations: Research Roundup
Today Show: Four Famous Old Gay Guys

Gay and Lesbian Association of Retiring Persons

Care and Aging With Pride
Stonewall Generation Shares Perspectives

SAGE: Services & Advocacy for LGBTQ Elders
Never Have I Ever: Elder Gay Men Having Fun

LGBTQ Aging Project
National Resource Center on LGBTQ Aging




Society must adopt a positive vision of “successful ageing” for LGBTQ elders, which encompasses a variety of quality-of-life issues that affect all senior citizens, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. These quality-of-life issues include the ability to:

--Maximize one’s physical and emotional well-being throughout the ageing process.

--Maintain the highest possible degree of autonomy and independence for as long as possible.

--“Age in place” in one’s own neighborhood or community within a context of respect, safety, and support.

--Remain actively engaged with social networks, including chosen and biological families.

--Pursue the social, recreational, intellectual, spiritual, and creative activities that provide a sense of stability, fulfillment, and vibrancy throughout the life cycle.

 

This information is designed to help funders recognize and resource this vision for healthy ageing within the LGBTQ community, which faces numerous barriers to accessing the services and support systems that promote “successful ageing” in our society.

 

Before describing these barriers and concerns, it is important to first understand the broader context of ageing in America.

 

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Gray Gays: Aging as an LGBTQ Adult

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Queer Elders Tell Us About the Greatest Loves of Their Lives

Controlling Complications and Aging Gracefully with HIV

LGBTQ MAP: Improving the Lives of LGBTQ Older Adults

Bill and John: More Than Ever

LGBTQ Seniors: The Joy of Being Out

LGBTQ Celebs in Their 50s Who Are Getting Better With Age

Frightening and Encouraging: Being an Older LGBTQ Person

Video: Silent Pioneers

 

 

Changing Demographics: The Graying of America

In 2000, there were an estimated 35 million people age 65 or older in the United States, representing 12 percent of the U.S. population, up from 8 percent in 1950. In 2010, the post–World War II baby boom generation will begin to turn 65, so that by 2030, there will be about 70 million older persons, more than twice as many as in 2000. By 2030, people age 65 and older are expected to represent 20 percent of the U.S. population. Individuals age 85 and older are the fastest growing segment of the older population. The increasing size of this age group has major implications for the future of this country’s health care system, because these individuals tend to be in poorer health and require more services than elders in their 60s and 70s (a group sometimes referred to as the “younger old”).

In 2000, an estimated 2 percent of the US population was 85 or older. By 2050, the percentage of persons in this age group is projected to more than double to nearly 5 percent of the population. The US Census Bureau projects that the population of persons age 85 and older could grow from about four million in 2000 to 19 million by 2050. Increasing life expectancy rates contribute to the growth of the older population. In 1900, life expectancy at birth was about 49 years. By 1960, life expectancy had increased to 70 years.

 

 

LGBTQ Seniors Tell Their Stories

Gay and Lesbian Association of Retiring Persons

Need to Build More LGBTQ Senior Housing

Elderly Gay Man Recalls His Visit to a Psychologist in 1948

AARP Launches Website for Older LGBTQ Americans

Gay Seniors: Mental Health and Stress

 

In 2001, life expectancy at birth reached a record high of 77.27 years. Life expectancies at 65 and 85 have also increased. Under current mortality conditions, people who survive to age 65 can expect to live an average of nearly 18 more years, while those who survive to age 85 can expect to live an average of seven years (for women) and six years (for men). In broad terms, these life expectancy rates not only amount to an “elder boom,” but to large numbers of much older individuals with commensurate health care and other ageing-related needs. On an individual level, these rates will translate into much longer periods of retirement for individual seniors, and more extended periods of reliance on housing, health care, and social services geared to their needs.

 

Older Americans are also growing more racially and ethnically diverse. In 2000, an estimated 84 percent of persons age 65 and older were non-Hispanic white, 8 percent were non-Hispanic black, 6 percent were Hispanic, 2 percent were Asian/Pacific Islander, and less than 1 percent were Native American/Alaska Native. By 2050, it is projected that approximately 64 percent of persons age 65 or older will be non-Hispanic white, 16 percent will be Hispanic, 12 percent will be non-Hispanic black, and 7 percent will be Asian/Pacific Islander. Services for America’s seniors will need to take this growing diversity into account as they strive to provide services that truly meet seniors’ needs.

 

Resources for Transgender Seniors

SAGE Publication: Practical Guide for LGBTQ Elders

Double Lives: LGBTQ Elders Tell Their Stories

Advocate: Politics of Caring for Our Queer Elders

Richard and John: Elderly Couple

Stonewall Generation Shares Perspectives

 

Core Issues for LGBTQ Elders

 

A contemporary understanding of culturally competent service delivery for seniors must include LGBTQ issues. While LGBTQ elders and their heterosexual counterparts contend with many of the same ageing-related issues (including challenges to their health, independence, and mobility; social isolation; the loss of peers and loved ones; and financial concerns, among others), LGBTQ seniors face special difficulties as well. These seniors are “twice-hidden” due to social discrimination on two levels: ageism and homophobia or heterosexism. LGBTQ seniors often face antigay or gender discrimination by mainstream elder care providers that renders them “invisible” and impedes their access to vitally important services. At the same time, LGBTQ elders frequently confront ageism within the LGBTQ community and the organizations created to serve the community’s needs.

 

Many older LGBTQ people respond to the pressures of discrimination by concealing their sexuality in settings where being “out of the closet” might hinder their access to quality care or even endanger their well-being. For many LGBTQ elders in their 70s and 80s, “passing” as heterosexual has been a lifelong survival strategy, one they are likely to carry with them when seeking long-term care, entering a nursing home, or speaking with a health care provider. This dynamic prevents many LGBTQ seniors from openly accessing the very programs that could be most beneficial to them, if only these programs were perceived as safe places to turn for help and if they were culturally responsive to LGBTQ elders’ needs.

 

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Where Do Gays Retire?
Mental Health Disparities in Older LGBTQ Populations: Research Roundup
Today Show: Four Famous Old Gay Guys

Same Sex Couples Tell Us What it's Like to be Legally Married

Gail and Audrey: Unexpected Love Story

Video Talk: Old Gays Share Their Coming Out Stories

AARP Pride: LGBTQ Advocates See Hurdles Ahead

Lessons on Resilience From LGBTQ Elders

LGBTQ Senior Experience

Queer Elders Tell Us About the Greatest Loves of Their Lives

Gay Retirement Guide For Fabulous LGBTQ Financial Planning

 

The gravity of this problem was even acknowledged on the federal level when, in 2001, the US Office on Ageing recognized that LGBTQ elders are underserved by the federally funded programs that receive support through the Older Americans Act to help elders remain independent and in their home environment and to prevent unnecessary or premature institutionalization.

 

LGBTQ elders are vulnerable in another important area as well. Being closely linked with income, health status, and the availability of caregivers, living arrangements are an important indicator of well-being among older persons. The US Census Bureau reports that older persons who live alone are more likely to be in poverty than older persons who live with their spouse. Needs assessments of LGBTQ elders in Los Angeles, Milwaukee, New York City, San Francisco, and elsewhere have found that LGBTQ elders are far more likely to live alone than heterosexual elders. LGBTQ elders are also less likely to have children than their heterosexual counterparts. Since life partners and children play an important role in caregiving, many LGBTQ elders become reliant on formal caregiving services sooner than elders who can turn to family members and partners for informal support. LGBTQ elders who are partnered must contend with an array of discriminatory practices that arise from the lack of formal recognition of their personal relationships. LGBTQ couples face unequal treatment in hospital visitation, health decision making, nursing care policies, Medicaid regulations, Medicare and Social Security coverage, pension and tax regulations, housing rights, and a host of other issues that fundamentally affect their financial security, health status, and quality of life.

 

[Source: Funders for Lesbian and Gay Issues, Report on LGBTQ Elders in America, 2004]

 

 
 

LGBTQ Celebs in Their 50s Who Are Getting Better With Age

What it's Like to be a Gay Man at 60

LGBTQ Elders Show Resiliency Despite Barriers

Older Lesbian Couple: Happy for 30 Years

Bisexual Elders

Williams Institute Report: LGBTQ Aging

Gay and Bisexual Men Enjoy Active Sex Lives in Their 70s, New Study Reveals

“The Old Gays” are Teaching us How to Get the Most Out of Life on TikTok

At Age 90, Kenneth Felts Comes Out to His Family
Controlling Complications and Aging Gracefully with HIV

Gen Silent: LGBTQ Aging Documentary

LGBTQ Seniors: The Joy of Being Out

University of North Dakota: Resources for the Aging LGBTQ Community

Info: LGBTQ Retirement Strategies

 

 

Gay Men More Sexually Active in Old Age, Study Reveals

Stonewall Generation Shares Perspectives

At 60 Years Old, I Became Invisible: Getting Old as a Gay Man Stinks

Black and Gay in New Orleans in the 60s

Aging in Equity: LGBTQ Elders in America

Frightening and Encouraging: Being an Older LGBTQ Person

Video: Silent Pioneers

Ageism Takes Heavy Toll on LGBTQ Seniors

Photos: Trans Elders Who Have Survived

Things Older Adults Can Do to Stay Connected and Overcome Isolation

Gay and Lesbian Association of Retiring Persons

Advocate: No One Will Care for LGBTQ Seniors But Themselves

 

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