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LGBTQ Slang

Many slang words and colloquial expressions in general usage in the LGBTQ community are derived from the everyday street jargon and informal speech employed by the drag subculture, the black gay subculture, the underground ballroom subculture, the gay bar scene, the gay dating scene, and the online chat texting community.

--Fam: Family. Member of the LGBTQ family.

--Gold Star Lesbian: Lesbian who has never had sex with a man.

--Platinum Gay: Gay man who has never had sex with a woman.

--Lipstick Lesbian: Lesbian who prefers to wear makeup and looks extremely (conventionally) feminine. High femme.

--Chapstick Lesbian: Lesbian who presents between masculine and feminine, often dressing in comfortable, sensible, understated clothing. Soft butch.

--Hasbian: Former Lesbian.

--LUG: Lesbian Until Graduation. Women who experiment with lesbianism while in college.

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--Beard/Fag Hag/Fruit Fly: Straight woman who hangs out almost exclusively with gay men.

--Fag Stag: Straight man drawn to the company of gay men.

--Mother: Older male homosexual, most always effeminate, who assumes a protective or guiding role.

--Himbo - Male bimbo. An attractive but unintelligent man.

--Stromosexual: Straight acting homosexual male.

--SAG: Straight acting gay.

--Futch: Halfway between femme and butch.

--Stem: Stud and femme. Simultaneously presenting as masculine and feminine. Tomboy.

--Boi: Masculine woman (young dyke, soft butch) or feminine man (young gay man, twink).

--Stone Butch: Someone who presents extremely masculine.

--Celesbian: Lesbian who is a celebrity. Famous lesbian. Example: Ellen DeGeneres.

--Dykon: Famous lesbian. Also: Famous woman (straight or lesbian) admired by lesbians.

--Bicon: Bisexual icon. Example: Lady Gaga.

--OWL: Older Wiser Lesbian. An elderly lesbian.

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--Guncle - Gay Uncle.

--Lesbiaunt - Gay Aunt.

--Salsa Queen: Gay man who has an interest in or attraction to Mexican men.

--Rice Queen: Gay man who has an interest in or attraction to Asian men.

--Gaysian: Gay Asian. Example: BD Wong.

--Baby Butch: Young, boyish lesbian.
--Baby Dyke: Young or recently out lesbian.

--Dyke Alike/Double Homo: Gay couple who dress alike or wear each other's clothes.

--Pitcher: Giver in a gay relationship. Top.

--Catcher: Receiver in a gay relationship. Bottom.

--Switcher: Alternates between giver and receiver. Versatile (Vers). Duo.

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--Top: Dominant sexual position. Giver.

--Bottom: Submissive sexual position. Receiver.

--Vers: Versatile sexual position. Switch. Alternating.

--Side: Non-anal sexual position.

--Pillow Princess: Someone who enjoys the receiving role in sex, but doesn't like to give. Derogatory term.

--Twink: Attractive, boyish-looking gay young man. Slender with little to no body hair. Blonde bimbo. Not particularly intelligent.

--Masc: Shorthand for “masculine.” Term used in online chats and personal ads when exchanging one's physical statistics.

--Beefcake: Attractive, masculine gay man with well-developed muscles. Compare this term with the older, now outdated, equivalent term for women, “cheesecake.”

--Auntie: Older, often effeminate and gossipy gay man.
--Daddy: Typically older gay man.
--Flamer: Extremely effeminate (flamboyant) gay man.

--Mary: Nickname for a gay man's real name. Used with affection or familiarity by another gay man.

--Friend of Dorothy (FOD): Gay man. Reference to Wizard of Oz.

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--Ace: Someone who identifies on the asexual spectrum.
--Aro: Someone who identifies on the aromantic spectrum.
--AroAce: Someone who identifies as both aromantic and asexual.
--Ace of Spades: Someone who identifies as an aromantic asexual.
--Ace of Hearts: Someone who identifies as a romantic asexual.

--Breeder - Heterosexual (straight) person, especially one with children.
--CisHet: Abbreviation for someone who is cisgender and heterosexual.

--Vanilla: Heterosexual activity (sex) that is conventional, uncreative, unadventurous, and boring.

--Unicorn: Bisexual woman who wants to be a part of a threesome. The conventional wisdom is that, much like a mythical creature, this person is hard to find or does not exist.

--Enby: Non-binary person. The term derives from the abbreviation "NB." Genderqueer, gender non-conforming, gender creative. Identifies as neither male or female.

--Poz: Usually gay, HIV-positive person.

--T4T: Trans for Trans. In dating circles, it is a trans person seeking another trans person. It can also refer to transgender individuals who are either exclusively attracted to other trans people or non-cis individuals, or who prioritize their attraction to other trans individuals so that they can better relate to their partner. It also means that a person practices of trans solidarity and mutual aid

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--Rizz: Ability to flirt or seduce. Charisma, charm, game.

--Face Beat: When someone applies makeup in a way that they've gone from ordinary to out-of-this-world stunning.

--Dusted: Being polished, elegant, stylish, refined. Looking good.

--Busted: Being messy, disarrayed, untidy, disheveled. Looking bad.

--On Fleek: On point, complete, flawlessly styled, well groomed, looking great, fashion perfection. Combination of "fly" and "sleek." Usage: "Her outfit was totally on fleek" or "Her eyebrows were on fleek."

--Snatched: New term that means the same as "on fleek." Usage: "Damn, your eyebrows look snatched."

--Thicc: Full figured.

--AF: As Fuck. Adjective used as the tag at the end of a phrase, as in, "gay as fuck" or "delicious as fuck."

--AAF: As A Friend. Descriptor to clarify a relationship, as in, "She's going to the parade with me AAF."

--GOAT: Greatest Of All Time.

--JAWG: Just A Wild Guess.

--TBH: To Be Honest.

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--Twerk: Sexually suggestive.

--Werk: Kudos. Well done.

--Slay: To do something exceptionally well. Usage: "Her performance slayed."

--Slaps: Impressive. Strikes you as good. Usage: "That outfit slaps."

--Shook: To be shaken or disturbed by something. Usage: "I was shook when I heard the news."

--Lit: Really good. Usage: "That idea is lit."

--Woke: Socially aware.

--Stan: Overzealous or obsessive fan of a particular celebrity.

--Extra: Over the top. Too much. Excessive.

--Yaaaassss: Immediate, excited response when you really love something.

--Camp: Aesthetic style and sensibility that regards something as appealing because of its bad taste and ironic value. Kitschy, cheesy, ostentatious, flamboyant, exaggerated, affected, theatrical, or excessive.

--Daddy/Mommy Dom: Dominant partner is a BDSM relationship.

--Baby Girl/Boy: Submissive partner in a BDSM relationship.

--Thirst/Thirsty: Desperately seeking approval. Slang term is to describe someone who is desperate or overly eager. A thirsty person is constantly looking for a person to date.

--In The Life: Occupied or engaged in some specialized and usually socially despised way of living, such as the homosexual subculture. In black gay circles, the term is used to refer to participants in a gay lifestyle.

--Tea (or T): Hidden truth. Secrets. Gossip.

--Read: To lecture or reprimand someone with mockery or a sharply worded barrage of painful truths about him or herself, especially in front of a crowd or audience.

--Clock: To "hit hard" verbally. If you clock someone, you essentially strike them across the head with an insult. It’s similar to "read," but slightly more aggressive.

--Shade: Negative or disparaging remarks made to or about someone. Subtle, sneering expression of contempt for or disgust with someone.

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--Slash: Fan of same-sex pairing. Usage: "fem slash" or "gay slash."

--Slasher/Slashing: One who (and the act of someone who) enjoys any media that features same-sex pairing.

--Ship: Relationship. Endorsement (desire, support) by fans for two people or characters to get together romantically, as in "I would definitely ship Kara and Lena" or "Wouldn't it be cool to ship Kirk and Spock?" Can also be used as a verb to mean compatible or agreeable, as in, "I ship you guys."

--Shipper/Shipping: One who (and the act of someone who) creates or devises relationships, including the invention of novel names or combination names for couples, as in "brangelina" for "brad" and "angelina."

--Bbz: Babes, baby. Could also be an acronym for "Best Babe Zone."

--Bae: Sweetheart, baby. Could also be an acronym for "Before Anyone Else."

--U-Hauling: Moving in after the first date.

--Gaydar: Method of detecting the presence and location of gay and lesbian individuals.

--Gayborhood: Neighborhood with a high concentration of same-sex individuals and couples.

--Kiki: Party. Get together. Festive gathering.

--Munch: Meeting or get-together of a group of BDSM people, usually in a "vanilla" setting in street-appropriate attire.

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Bear Terminology

--Bear: Hairy/heavy set gay man
--Grizzly: Hairy/heavy set outdoors type gay man

--Bruin: Hairy/heavy set athletic gay man
--Panda Bear: Hairy/heavy set Asian gay man
--Black Bear: Hairy/heavy set African American gay man
--Brown Bear: Hairy/heavy set Hispanic gay man
--Polar Bear: Hairy/heavy set silver, white or gray haired gay man
--Ginger Bear: Hairy/heavy set red haired gay man
--Berenstein Bear: Hairy/heavy set Jewish gay man

--Koala Bear: Hairy/heavy set Australian gay man

--Honey Badger: Hairy blonde gay man, typically not muscular or heavy set

--Otter: Lean and hairy gay man

--Cub: Young hairy gay man

--Chaser: Non hairy man who likes hairy men
--Goldilocks: Heterosexual female in the company of bears (fag hag)

--Ursula: Butch lesbians who participate in the bear culture

--Woof: Greeting used by bears

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Friend of Dorothy

In gay slang, a "Friend of Dorothy" (FOD) is a gay man and more broadly, any LGBTQ person. A reference to the Wizard of Oz story, the phrase dates back to at least World War II, when homosexual acts were illegal in the United States. Stating that, or asking if, someone was a Friend of Dorothy was a euphemism used for discussing sexual orientation without others knowing its meaning.

The precise origin of the term is unknown. Some believe that it is derived from The Road to Oz (1909), a sequel to the original Wonderful Wizard of Oz. The book introduces readers to Polychrome who, upon meeting Dorothy's travelling companions, exclaims, "You have some queer friends, Dorothy", and she replies, "The queerness doesn't matter, so long as they're friends." There are numerous references to LGBTQ characters and relationships, including an innuendo about bisexuality, when Dorothy asks Scarecrow which way to go on the yellowbrick road and he says, "Of course some people go both ways," although it's unknown if these references were intentional.

More commonly, it is stated that "Friend of Dorothy" refers to the derivative 1939 film The Wizard of Oz because Judy Garland, who starred as the main character Dorothy, is a gay icon. In the film, Dorothy is accepting of those who are different. For example, the "gentle lion" giving the line, "I'm afraid there's no denyin', I'm just a dandy lion." The Wizard of Oz has a "particular resonance in the culture of the queer community." The struggles faced by Dorothy, Toto, and friends, especially against the Wicked Witch of the West and her flying monkeys, can metaphorically mirror the difficulties of coming out. How the group of outcasts worked together likewise mirrors LGBTQ people who create new chosen families. Researchers also note there is an absence of a heteronormative male-female romance, and Dorothy and her friends "do not need to change themselves to become who they want to be." Many see Garland’s portrayal as a "queer journey, an escape from the puritanical, morally rigid, black-and-white small-town life to Technicolor city existence with fabulous friends."

Additionally relevant is the classic song, “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” that Dorothy (Judy Garland) sings, which was possibly “the most memorable performance” of Garland’s career, and the song that “contributed to the evolution of the rainbow flag as a gay icon.” The song “served as a cultural catalyst, propelling the eventual embrace of the rainbow symbol by the world's LGBTQ communities.” Time Magazine, in its August 1967 review of Garland's final engagement at New York's Palace Theatre, observed that a disproportionate number of audience members were homosexual.

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Read

"Read" means to tell someone about him or herself. Knowing exactly where another person is “coming from'” and telling the person about it, especially in front of a crowd or audience (RuPaul’s Drag Race). The truth behind what someone is saying. To understand (Do you read me?). An attack on one’s credibility. To lecture someone with mockery or a sharply worded barrage of painful truths about him or herself. Popularized by New York City drag queens in the documentary movie Paris is Burning.

"That was a read, honey!"

"Don't do it honey, I will read your ass."

“He was upset because I was reading him.”

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"Read between the lines" – To look for subtle or hidden subtext

"Read the meter" – To make sure everything's alright

"Read him the riot act" - To reprimand or scold someone

“Read him like a book” – To foretell or easily discern or understand someone

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Throwing Shade

You don't have to watch RuPaul's Drag Race to have heard the expression “throw shade,” “throwing shade,” or sometimes just “shade.”

“Shade” refers to negative or disparaging remarks made to or about someone. “Shade” is a subtle, sneering expression of contempt for or disgust with someone.

The first recorded use of “shade” to refer to an insult is from the 1990 documentary Paris is Burning, which chronicles the drag scene in mid-1980s Manhattan as seen through the eyes of young Latino and black drag queens.

According to E. Patrick Johnson, a professor of African-American studies at Northwestern University who has written on insults within the gay and black communities, “shade” is something that has been a part of the American black experience since slavery, when a direct insult could result in death. "African-Americans developed these covert ways of communication, which, over time, have morphed into the traditional ways that they interact with one another."

Thanks in part to Paris Is Burning, “shade” began to enter the mainstream in the early 1990s, first appearing in places like the New York Times, the Boston Globe, and the Los Angeles Times. It even appeared in a jokey headline about an eclipse: "Uppity Earth Throws Shade.”

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Spilling the Tea

Like “shade” and “read,” “tea” originated in drag culture, and specifically black drag culture. It means "to tell your secret" or "to reveal the hidden truth." More informally, it simply means "to gossip."

When it was first popularized in general print, it could be spelled “T” or “tea” and it didn't refer to the drink. One of the early print uses of “T” comes from John Berendt's nonfiction best seller, Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil. In it, he is interviewing Lady Chablis, a prominent drag performer in Savannah, about her dating life, and she notes that she avoids certain men because they're prone to violence when they "find out her T.”

"What’s my T? Yeah, my T. My thing, my business, what's going on in my life."

-Lady Chablis

Chablis' interviews in Berendt's book gave the world a peek into the vocabulary of black drag culture. “T” is short for “truth,” and her truth is that she's transgender. (It's worth noting that Chablis herself uses the letter “T” instead of the word “tea” in her 1997 autobiography, and glosses it as "my truth.")

It appears that “T,” also rendered as “tea,” has a double-edged meaning in black drag culture. It could refer to a hidden truth, as Chablis uses it, and it could also refer to someone else's hidden truth, that is, gossip.

The phrase "spill the tea," used as an encouragement to gossip, has been used in everything from Harlequin romance novels to RuPaul's Drag Race.

Comedian Larry Wilmore used "weak tea" regularly on his 2015-16 Comedy Central show in response to people who weren't telling the absolute truth.

As drag culture (and particularly black drag culture) gained prominence, so too did this dual meaning use of “tea.” It has spread far beyond black drag culture at this point.

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Being Woke

"Stay awake, to adjust to new ideas, to remain vigilant and to face the challenge of change."
-Martin Luther King Jr

"Wake up!"
-Spike Lee, Film Director

"If You're Woke You Dig It"
-1962 New York Times Magazine article by Black novelist William Melvin Kelley, describing appropriation of Black slang by white beatniks

"Woke" has gained popularity as a slang term. Synonyms for "woke" might include intelligent, smart, insightful, bright, thoughtful, astute, informed, knowledegable, enlightened, wise, aware, reasonable, literate, intuitive, educated, open-minded.

"Woke" is similar to such expressions as "Wake Up Call." It is somewhat similar to "With it," "Right on," and "Cool" but with a focus on social justice. Woke people are open-minded and thoughtful and comfortable talking about controversial topics, including feminism, environmental concerns, and LGBTQ rights

The definition of "woke" is to be socially and politically awake, alert, and aware. It refers to an awareness of facts, reality, true situation and, in general, possessing an accurate understanding of events and circumstances.

Originally it meant "alert to civil rights issues" or "an enlightened approach to civil rights." Among the phrases that describe what is means to be "woke," are . . . Alert to injustice in society, especially racism . . . Aware of and actively attentive to important facts and issues, especially issues of racial and social justice . . . Being conscious of racial discrimination in society and other forms of oppression and injustice . . . Alert to racial prejudice and discrimination . . . Active awareness of systemic injustices and prejudices, especially those related to civil and human rights . . . And to be woke or to stay woke means to say alert for injustice, discrimination, prejudice, unfairness, to anyone, irrespective of race, color, religion, sexual orientation or anything else.

"I advise everybody, be a little careful when they go along through there; Best stay woke, keep their eyes open."
-Huddie Ledbetter (Lead Belly), Black American folk singer-songwriter, from 1938 song "Scottsboro Boys"

"Let me tell you buddy. Waking up is a damn sight harder than going to sleep, but we'll stay woke up longer."
-J. Saunders Redding quoting Black United Mine Workers official in 1940

"Being woke means paying attention to what's going on, because if you don't, you'll get screwed over and left behind. To be woke means you're now informed of things you did not know before. You are not in the dark about other societies and cultures whose past has been edited and censored to make you think it wasn't as bad as it actually was. Being woke describes a state of being in which you generally question common paradigms. The word denotes that a person has a desire to research his positions on most issues before espousing ideas that are accepted. Intrinsic to the state of being woke is that you fight against systems of indoctrination such as religion, education system, and racism."
-Urban Dictionary

"Being woke represents Black Americans' need to be aware of racially motivated threats and the potential dangers of white America"
-Aja Romano, Writer for Vox

"To be woke is to be radically aware and justifiably paranoid. It is to be cognizant of the rot pervading the power structures."
-David Brooks, Columnist, 2017

"Ideas that have come to be associated with "wokeness" include a rejection of American exceptionalism; a belief that the United States has never been a true democracy; that people of color suffer from systemic and institutional racism; that white Americans experience white privilege; that African Americans deserve reparations for slavery and post-enslavement discrimination; that disparities among racial groups, for instance in certain professions or industries, are automatic evidence of discrimination; that US law enforcement agencies are designed to discriminate against people of color and so should be defunded, disbanded, or heavily reformed; that women suffer from systemic sexism; that individuals should be able to identify with any gender or none; that US capitalism is deeply flawed; and that Trump's election to the presidency was not an aberration but a reflection of the prejudices about people of color held by large parts of the US population."

-Perry Bacon Jr

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