Queer Cafe

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Stand Up For Their Real Life

Want to know a secret? The life of gay people doesn’t differ all that much just because disability is involved. So why then is the community often too silent when it comes to people with disabilities? We assume and act like their lives are completely different, when that isn’t the case. At the end of the day, they deserve the same rights that we’re fighting for. They have other issues that they have to face because they are disabled, and this means that they deserve good allies.

However, there has to be a balance between the two points as well. Just as you don’t want to be disrespectful, you also don’t want to assume that everyone needs your help. It’s important to keep this to the individual at hand, rather than what you think they need. They will speak up and let you know, believe us.

Keeping these tips in mind encourages not just open communication, but a true exchange of ideas. You can’t have that without respect being at the start of everything. People dealing with disabilities just want to feel like they’re truly part of the community, rather than just a convenient talking point when you want to win an argument. Don’t ignore these tips if there is a chance for genuine communication and sincere connection. You won’t regret it!

Out Gay Rowing Champion Lauren Rowles Celebrates New World Best Time at Paralympics
Matthew and Paul

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Books

Eyes of Desire: Deaf Gay and Lesbian Reader by Raymond Luczak

Do You Dream in Color by Laurie Rubin

Mean Little Deaf Queer by Terry Galloway

Queer Crips: Disabled Gay Men and Their Stories by B. Guter and JR Killacky

My Life as a Deaf Gay Man by Peter Beach Morier

Captive Genders: Trans Embodiment and the Prison Industrial Complex by Eric A. Stanley and Nat Smith

Crip Theory: Cultural Signs of Queerness and Disability by Robert McRuer

Feminist, Queer, Crip by Alison Kafer

Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and The Limits of Law by Dean Spade

Black on Both Sides: A Racial History of Trans Identity by C. Riley Snorton

Films/Shows

T11 - Written and directed by Suzanne Guacci
Special - Written by Ryan O'Connel, Executive Producer Jim Parsons
Margarita with a Straw - By Shonali Bose
Euphoria - Starring Zendaya

Queer and Disabled: Misconceptions

Italian Sprinter Valentina Petrillo: First Out Transgender Paralympian

Meet the Triathlete Who Just Happens to be Transgender and Deaf

Deaf YouTuber and Her Wife Go Viral Sharing Their Remarkable Family Journey

Dickie Hearts: Paving the Way for a Rainbow of Deaf Stories

Disabled LGBTQ Activists Redefining Sex and Sexuality

Respect Ability: One-Third of LGBTQ Adults Have a Disability

Jessica Kellfren-Fozard: Gay and Deaf

Scholarly Paper: Intersectionality of Disabilities and LGBTQ Identity

Groundbreaking Queer Autistic Characters paving the Way for Visibility

Deafies in Drag
Man With Cerebral Palsy Recalls First Experience At Gay Bar
Video Talk: Disabled LGBTQ Couple

Meet the Same-Sex Parents Advocating for LGBTQ and Disability Rights

Author Lucy Webster: Similarities Between the Experiences of Being Queer and Being Disabled

Disability Pride Flag (2017)

The Disability flag (Disability Pride flag, Overcoming flag,Flag of the Rights of Persons with Disabilities) is a flag that represents people who have disabilities. It was created by the Valencian dancer Eros Recio in 2017 and then presented to the United Nations. The flag is meant for general use, particularly at disability-centered events. It has been used at the International Day of Persons with Disabilities.

The flag is intended to represent people with disabilities, their struggle for rights, and related concepts including the disability pride movement and the Paralympic Games.

The flag is a tricolor flag with three equally-sized horizontal stripes of gold, silver, and bronze. These colors are meant to evoke the three medals at the Paralympic Games, and are intended to represent the collective's overcoming of obstacles, rather than the competitive sentiments related to the event itself.

According to Recio, the three colors also represent the different forms of disability. More specifically, according to Eros Recio, the flag is designed with the colors of three metals: gold, silver, and bronze. These are meant to represent the three main types of disability: physical, mental (intellectual, psychosocial), and sensory.

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Queer and Disabled: Representation and Accessibility

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LGBTQ People with Developmental Disabilities

Huff Post: Queer Disability Anthology

Disability Pride Flag (2021)

The Disability Pride Flag, created by Ann Magill, features parallel stripes that stand for intracommunal solidarity. The colors on the flag symbolize various disability experiences. The black background mourns disabled people under abelist oppression who have died due to negligence, suicide, rebellion, illness, and eugenics. The stripe’s color represents disability types:

Red: physical disabilities
Gold: cognitive and intellectual disabilities
White: nonvisible and undiagnosed disabilities
Blue: psychiatric disabilities

Green: sensory disabilities

Disability Flag: Explanation

LGBTQ People Living With Disabilities

Meet the Triathlete Who Just Happens to be Transgender and Deaf

Signing LGBTQ

Dickie Hearts: Paving the Way for a Rainbow of Deaf Stories

Disabled LGBTQ Creatives: Imagining a Better Tomorrow

Dandy Dodlez: Artist, Queer, Disabled, Sexually Active

Sign: Silent Film Project

Organizations

Respect Ability
Respect Ability is a diverse, disability-led nonprofit that works to create systemic change in how society views and values people with disabilities, and that advances policies and practices that empower people with disabilities to have a better future. Our mission is to fight stigmas and advance opportunities so people with disabilities can fully participate in all aspects of community.

Disabled, Queer and Here
In 2018, Wayne Allingham launched Disabled, Queer and Here, a performance show featuring talented LGBTQ disabled people. The events showcase a range of performance art, including drag, poetry, dance and song. The group aims to break down barriers and increase awareness, inclusion, diversity and accessibility for LGBTQ disabled people.

Brownton Abbey
Created by queer black and brown disabled people, Brownton Abbey is a political performance party that creates spaces which centre, celebrate and elevate the disabled QTIBPOC community. Through these spaces the collective paves the way towards intersectional and accessible arts, community and activism.

ParaPride
ParaPride is committed to helping disabled people fully engage with the LGBTQ community and all its activities. The charity works with venues, public spaces and online platforms to create inclusive events that cater to the needs of all those living with disabilities, mental health and chronic health conditions, and impairments. They hosted the first London ParaPride in 2019.

Blind LGBTQ Pride International
The purpose of Blind LGBTQ Pride is to provide for the betterment of the lives of those who are visually impaired and who are LGBTQ. By providing a forum for the views and concerns of visually impaired persons interested in issues facing those who are LGBTQ.

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Gay with Cerebral Palsy: Too Gay for Disabled People, Too Disabled for the Gays
Influential Disabled LGBTQ Activists

Films and Shows With Messy, Amazing, Real LGBTQ Disabled Characters
Jessica and Claudia: Wife as Caregiver

Author Lucy Webster: Similarities Between Experiences of Being Queer and Being Disabled
Disabled LGBTQ Creatives: Imagining a Better Tomorrow

Born Without Limbs - Now I'm Marrying My Dream Man

Deaf YouTuber and Her Wife Go Viral Sharing Their Remarkable Family Journey

Nancy Eves: Autistic, Trans, Non-Binary
LGBTQ People Living With Disabilities

Groundbreaking Queer Autistic Characters paving the Way for Visibility

Groundbreaking New Series Showcases LGBTQ Athletes and Coaches on USA Women’s Wheelchair Basketball Team
Stephanie Wheeler is Part of the Heart and Soul of USA Women’s Wheelchair Basketball

Stephanie Wheeler: LGBTQ Disabled Athlete

Ballin Out: New DocuSeries About Wheelchair Basketball

It’s an iconic USA Paralympics image. Stephanie Wheeler, after winning her second straight women’s wheelchair basketball Paralympics gold medal as a player, grabbed an American flag and hoisted is above her shoulders.

Wheeler has since elevated herself to legendary status. She coached Team USA to gold at the Rio Paralympics in 2016. Over the years she has also coached the Illinois women’s wheelchair basketball team. She is also a member of the National Wheelchair Basketball Hall of Fame.

Wheeler is also featured in Outsports’ docuseries, “Ballin’ Out,” which can be viewed on YouTube. In the series, she invites the audience into not just her coaching world, but also her personal life as an out lesbian.

Q: “Ballin’ Out.” What are your thoughts on the "Ballin Out" series?

STEPHANIE: I love it. I think the storytelling is really beautiful. Such care was taken with all of our stories. Everyone who had the opportunity to tell their story. Such care was taken with how those stories were portrayed, in letting us take the lead in how we wanted to be seen and heard. I love the documentary series. You get this mix of beautiful storytelling, and this super ultra competitive look at our sport. People have told me you’ll laugh, you’ll cry. It's unique. These stories haven’t been told. And it’s very timely.

Q: When we embarked on this project over two years ago, you talked about making sure this project didn’t become “Inspiration Porn.” Tell us about that, and also, did we succeed?

S: One of the things that’s easy to slide into when we’re telling stories about folks who are disabled is that disabled people are objectified to make other people feel better. It exploits disabled folks in that process.

Why this project is not that is that: We get to tell our stories. it’s our words and our experiences. By letting that happen, we avoid getting into the water of “inspiration porn.” The series is inspirational. It will inspire people to try for the national team, or that they can be a woman and disabled and queer. But we got to have a say in how that story is told.

The docuseries is obviously aimed at a mass audience, but it’s not there to make you feel pity or sad. It’s not there to objectify us. It tells our stories, and it tells our whole stories. The other reason it avoids that, is that it shows us in all of our complexities. This series shows our emotions, it shows our different experiences, it shows we’re complex, complicated individuals living with disabilities.

Q: How do you see Team USA’s chances in Women’s Wheelchair Basketball at the Paris Paralympics?

S: This team competing at the Paralympics has every opportunity to win a gold medal. Thinking about teams that are successful, they have speed, they have the ability to score in different ways, they can defend, they have veteran leadership and young players who might be on the verge of changing the game, and they have great coaching. This team has everything it needs to go win a gold medal.

They’ve also experienced a lot over the last three years. In the docuseries you’ll see their journey at the 2023 World Championships. This team has grown so much and they are ready, they are ready for this moment.

We have a long history of greatness with USA Wheelchair Basketball. From our first teams to this team right now. we have gold medals, and we have great people. We’ve won four gold medals at the Paralympics. That’s a legacy we can be proud to be part of, and I hope this team knows all of the teams before them have their back, to lift them up.

Ballin Out - Episode 1 Out LGBTQ Athletes for USA Wheelchair Basketball
Ballin Out - Episode 2 Disabilities
Ballin Out - Episode 3 being LGBTQ in Wheelchair Basketball
Ballin Out - Episode 4 Mental Health
Ballin Out - Episode 5 Pride

Q: You’ve accomplished everything someone could in the sport. What is your present, and what is your future, in women’s wheelchair basketball?

S: As the head coach at the University of Illinois, I get to work with some of the athletes who have aspirations to compete on Team USA. And I get to work with other athletes whose highest aspiration is the collegiate level. I get to help them all achieve their hopes and dreams. And I never take that for granted.

Outside of coaching, my goal is to make sure all of the women in our sport feel they belong for what they bring to the sport, and for who they are. That includes some amazing coaches. I’ll continue to do everything I can to ensure our sport is a place where everyone feels they belong.

Q: If you could point viewers to a couple key takeaways from the Ballin Out series, what would they be?

S: Disabled people are complicated and complex, just like every other human being. We have lives where we experience ranges of emotions. We have joy. We’ve all gone through things that have changed the trajectory of our lives. We experience love. We experience the full range of emotions of humanity. And I hope people see that. Joy. Love. Heartbreak. Tragedy.

I also want everyone to see how amazing our sport is. And how unbelievably athletic and talented our athletes and coaches are. And to see them as competitors, and the amazing Paralympians they are. I hope they can now see that disability isn’t limiting, it’s ableism in society that’s limiting. And I hope it helps shift that lens and inspire people to see where ableism exists in society and help everyone be whatever they want to be.

[Source: Cyd Zeigler, Out Sports, August 2024]

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The Journey of Being LGBTQ and Disabled

Challenges, Struggles, Triumphs

In today's diverse and ever-evolving world, the experiences of individuals within marginalized communities have started to gain the attention and recognition they deserve. One such intersection is being a part of the LGBTQ community while also living with a disability. This unique journey encompasses a range of challenges and triumphs, reflecting the profound resilience of those who navigate both identities. This essay explores the complexities and experiences of individuals who identify as LGBTQ and disabled, highlighting the need for increased understanding, acceptance, and inclusivity.

Intersectionality is the understanding that an individual's identity is shaped by multiple factors such as race, gender, sexual orientation, and disability, which intersect and interact to create unique experiences and challenges. Being LGBTQ and disabled is an example of such intersectionality, where individuals face the compounded effects of societal discrimination, stereotypes, and stigma. Acknowledging this intersectionality is crucial to appreciate the full spectrum of their experiences.

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The experience of being LGBTQ and disabled is shaped by a myriad of challenges. Within the LGBTQ community, disabled individuals may face prejudice and ignorance, as their struggles may be overshadowed or disregarded. Similarly, in the disabled community, their sexual orientation or gender identity might be misunderstood or dismissed, leading to feelings of isolation and invisibility. This dual stigma can result in social exclusion, limited access to resources, and heightened vulnerability to discrimination.

Accessibility is a critical concern for individuals living with disabilities, and this is no different for LGBTQ individuals with disabilities. Physical barriers and lack of accommodations in public spaces, healthcare facilities, and workplaces can pose significant hurdles. Additionally, LGBTQ spaces might not always be inclusive of people with disabilities, lacking appropriate accommodations or awareness of their unique needs. Promoting accessible and inclusive environments for all is vital to fostering a sense of belonging and equal participation.

Living at the intersection of being LGBTQ and disabled can have a profound impact on mental health. The weight of societal expectations and discrimination can lead to increased rates of anxiety, depression, and feelings of worthlessness. However, it is essential to recognize the immense resilience that arises from navigating these challenges. Many individuals find strength in their identities, forming a supportive network of like-minded individuals who understand their struggles and triumphs.

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The journey of being LGBTQ and disabled has given rise to a powerful wave of advocacy and empowerment. Many individuals actively engage in raising awareness about the intersectionality of their identities, breaking stereotypes, and fighting for equal rights and representation. Through their resilience and determination, they inspire change and pave the way for a more inclusive and compassionate society.

The experience of being LGBTQ and disabled is an intricate interplay of challenges, triumphs, and resilience. Navigating these dual identities requires acknowledgment, understanding, and empathy from society at large. By promoting accessibility, inclusivity, and acceptance, we can create a world where individuals of all identities can thrive, breaking free from the shackles of discrimination and embracing the beauty of human diversity. Embracing intersectionality enriches the fabric of humanity and fosters a society that celebrates every individual for who they are.

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Queer Disabled Love Story

“T11 Incomplete” is a medical term, which refers to a paraplegic patient whose spine is severed but who still has some feeling in their legs. It is also the title of a groundbreaking new film in which two broken people, Kate Murphy (Karen Sillas) and Laura (Kristen Renton), find love through a caregiver-patient relationship.

T11 Incomplete is groundbreaking for several reasons. One is its director and writer, Suzanne Guacci, a former state trooper who lost her leg and went on to begin a production company, Aspire Productions, dedicated to telling stories at the intersection of disabled and LGBTQ identities.

Second is how the film, which was recently released, fulfills this promise, centering historically marginalized people while also employing them on set and behind the camera. Such is Guacci's commitment to uplifting these communities that a cat named Peanut Butter is blind in real life.

Third, T11 Incomplete is a universal film about damaged people who have wronged others but are fighting for a brighter future for themselves and their loved ones. In addition to disability, the film also addresses substance abuse, recovery, and the work that goes into maintaining and repairing family relationships, a topic that any viewer can relate to.

Guacci discusses these themes, the lessons Hollywood can learn from the film and its creation, and her own survivor story.

Movie Trailer: T11 Incomplete

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Tell us what inspired you to write and direct T11 Incomplete.

It started with me wanting to write a story about nursing. I think they are extraordinary human beings. We’ve all seen it now through COVID, but nurses played a major part in my own recovery, and over the past 10 years I’ve had a host of aides and hospice nurses and RN’s and LPN’s in and out of my house for my aging parents and my in-laws, so they have been very prevalent in my life. And simultaneously to that, I wanted to write a story with a lesbian female disabled character. T11 Incomplete is what came out of all that.

There are still so few representations of LGBTQ disabled characters. What did it mean to you personally to bring this visibility to film?

It was very important to me to bring this story and the character of Laura to light because I’ve never seen a character like her or an LGBTQ story like this. It’s different and it’s timely, and being disabled myself, I felt a responsibility to get it right.

Kate and Laura are not only abled and disabled; there is also an age gap in their relationship. As the filmmaker, what was it like exploring a romance between characters who are bridging different divides?

It was interesting for me as a writer to explore this relationship because on one hand, it is complex with all those different divides, but in its true essence, after you peel away those differences of age and ability and socio-economic, it is really quite simple. It’s just two souls who cling to each other in their mutual suffering. Suffering knows no divide. That is indeed the bridge. And then as a filmmaker, watching Karen Sillas and Kristen Renton embody these characters, was just so beautiful.

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What were some of the challenges of creating a protagonist like Kate who is at once sympathetic and flawed?

It is tricky because as a writer you don’t want to tip the scale either way. You need to find the balance. But I always strive for the truth, and I think if the character is grounded in truth, it works. You can’t fake a character like Kate. It won’t work if you do. And that’s why as a director, putting Kate into the hands of magnificent Karen Sillas, who hit all the right notes, was just incredible to watch every day on set.

The film deals with good and bad (and the gray area that falls in between) from the point of view of criminal justice as well as individual judgment. How did your career as a New York state trooper influence how you judge others and how you wanted to present judgment and forgiveness in the film?

As a former trooper I was very aware that I held people’s lives in my hands. Whether I was arresting someone for DWI or giving someone a speeding ticket. The power I held, I took very seriously, and how you handle a situation when you hold the power means everything. But I tried always to see people and not the act they were committing. And I learned that nothing is completely black and white. No two speeding tickets are the same, no two DWIs are the same. There is so much gray, and it requires discernment when you deal with people. It requires listening and understanding. And I think in T11 Incomplete I wanted to really emphasize all of that. The characters are neither completely good or bad. They have moments of each, and they are all learning and growing at different paces and stages. But to judge them on one act is unfair. We are all more than our mistakes or our poor decisions.

How did losing a leg in the line of duty change your point of view of the world?

I had never known an amputee before I lost my leg. Actually, my only reference was from movies I had seen or veterans, who in many cases were in wheelchairs as opposed to ambulating with prosthetics. So just in that regard, my world opened because I was thrust into becoming a member of this group that I knew nothing about. But I was hit by a young girl when I was on duty. She had smoked a little and drank a little, and I was in her path that fateful night, but I have to say I never felt anger or blame. It always just seemed to me that this was lined up for me. My destiny, so to speak, and her destiny would be her own. It wasn’t my job to judge her. Not that it wasn’t earth-shattering at the time because it absolutely was, and it took time to grieve the loss of not only my limb and my physicality but my career and my abilities. But after a while, I moved past all of that, and I realized the gift that I was given. Not only to be alive but to have known excruciating pain and to have persevered through and healed. To have felt my world crumble but to rise and start anew. I know grace and appreciation in such a profound way today that I am always on the verge of tears. It has truly been an awakening. I am aware now of the amazing disabled community that I am very proud to be part of. I am so proud of actors like Katy Sullivan and Kristen Renton and Lauren Russell who do their thing and give their all, no matter what their day brings or how they are feeling. And my hope is that I can continue to be an advocate in my work and in my own way.

Movie Trailer: T11 Incomplete

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Many of the characters are struggling with or recovering from addiction — a struggle that is, unfortunately, disproportionately seen in the LGBTQ community. What message did you hope to send about folks who are struggling and recovering?

I'm not sure I wanted to send a message, and I certainly have had my own struggles with abuse before I came out. But Kate's character surely knows the struggle. Her sobriety is what changes her life and connects her to her family again. And although temptation is always there, she holds steady to the love. Especially of her grandson Brady. That’s her driving force, that is what gives her the strength she needs to stay sober. So I say, cling to the love in your life and let it be your source of strength.

The film is not only centered on queer and disabled people — it also employs them as actors and crew members. What lessons can Hollywood learn from this?

To open your eyes and be creative. Judy Bowman, our casting director, and I took the task very seriously of thinking outside the box when casting and putting actors in spots that allowed them to be seen as actors first and foremost. We have Zach Booth playing a straight character, Katy Sullivan playing an able-bodied character, Kristen Renton playing a wheelchair user. We flipped the labels while still being inclusive and representing our communities. For me as a disabled lesbian director, I felt a great responsibility not only to serve the story with superb actors but to represent our communities honestly, and that extended to having disabled crew members as well. And, believe it or not, we chose a blind kitten to play Peanut Butter! So this was the way for me that felt like I was satisfying everything and gave me peace about it.

What do you hope is the takeaway for audiences?

I hope that the story resonates with people. It’s a human story about loss and forgiveness and suffering, but it’s also about hope. And I think as human beings, especially after the last year we’ve had, we can all use a little hope.

[Source: Daniel Reynolds, Advocate Magazine, April 2021]

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Hands and fingers move through the air with amazing speed and precision. I sit watching, hoping the weak smile on my face will mask my befuddlement. All I see in these movements is a blur. Everyone else at the table sees jokes, anecdotes, and answers to the omnipresent dinner party question, "What have you been up to lately?" I am at a birthday dinner for a deaf friend of my sister, and I am only one of two hearing people in attendance who doesn't sign. The other looks like she has suddenly been transported to a marketplace in downtown New Delhi and she has no idea what to do or how to act.

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I imagine as I am sitting there that this is but a small taste of the daily experiences of the deaf. Far too often, they find themselves at the table, so to speak, but excluded from the conversation. In the decade since that dinner party, fortunately, there has been advances in awareness of the challenges facing deaf people, in large part due to efforts to comply with the Americans with Disabilities Act in the United States and similar laws elsewhere. Consequently, deaf individuals aren't excluded from the conversation quite as often, anymore, but still too much.

While the rest of the world catches up and works to include the hearing impaired in the fabric of society, the deaf have created their own community through organizations, social gatherings, and internet forums. In this way, the deaf community is much like the LGBTQ community, and a substantial body of research that looks at issues of inclusivity and diversity has included sections on challenges facing both deaf and LGBTQ individuals, as they are often the same. However, scant research has been done on those individuals who are both LGBTQ and deaf. This is surprising, considering what my sister, an interpreter for the deaf, has told me: "You'd be surprised how many deaf people are gay." How many exactly? According to the Deaf Queer Resource Center, there are about 2.8 million deaf LGBTQ persons in the United States alone.

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Perhaps because of the lack of widespread attention, the deaf LGBTQ community has developed its own subculture. Several organizations exist to help facilitate the spread of information about LGBTQ persons with hearing impairments and to bring together the community as a whole. Among those organizations is the previously mentioned Deaf Queer Resource Center, whose primary function is the dissemination of information about and for deaf LGBTQ individuals.

More proactive is the Rainbow Alliance for the Deaf (RAD), which advocates for the rights of the deaf and LGBTQ, as well as having a bi-annual conference. Not only does the conference educate and have workshops, they also name a man and woman of the year, for those individuals who have excelled in advocacy and charity work in their communities. Additionally, they have a pageant with a Mr. RAD, Ms. RAD, and Miss RAD named.

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According to a 1990 study by Daniel B. Swartz, Perceptions & Attitudes of Male Homosexuals from Differing Socio-Cultural & Audiological Backgrounds, deaf gay men very likely to join organizations and gay rights groups. Further, deaf gay men are happier in their relationships and have more positive self-images than hearing gay men. However, Swartz found that the level of confusion about one's sexuality was the same for hearing and deaf men who had deaf parents, which suggests a general lack of knowledge of LGBTQ issues among straight deaf individuals.

Unfortunately, a couple of separate studies found that deaf LGBTQ persons are more likely to be victims of sexual, physical, and psychological abuse or assault. Gay deaf individuals are also more likely to contract HIV. Klinger concluded that the more comfortable an LGBTQ person is with his or her identity and feels a connection to the community, the more likely he or she is to have acquired sexual knowledge, although this is more likely among deaf gay men than deaf lesbians.

Of course, those who are deaf and gay aren't the only ones facing challenges. Anyone who deals with both disability and sexual orientation issues must navigate a different path. While there is a dearth of literature on being gay and deaf, it's an abundance compared to the amount of literature available concerning LGBTQ individuals who are blind. Fortunately, there has been more research devoted to handicapped individuals who are LGBTQ. Regardless of how much attention or research has been devoted to them, those with disabilities who are gay or lesbian must deal with an extra burden of both societal judgment and misconceptions.

[Source: Michael Abernathy, Pop Matters]

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Frida Kahlo - Artist

Laurie Ruben - Opera Singer

Peter Beach Morier - Author

Geri Jewell - Writer

Justin Chappel - Political Activist

Aaron Philip - Model

Umber Ghauri - Make-Up Artist

Dino Petrera - Actor

Jennifer Restle - CFO, Educator
Bethany Stevens - Educator
Riva Lehrer - Artist
Josh Feldman - Actor

Andrew Gurza - Activist
A Andrews - Author

Reggie Greer - White House Advisor

Kamden Romano - Triathlete

Jessica Kellfren-Fozard - Educator, YouTuber

Dr. Laura Rifkin - Professor, Therapeutic Recreation Specialist

Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha - Artist, Author

Jess Thurber - Communication Designer

Lucy Webster - Author

Tiphany Adams - Model, Actor, Speaker

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Melissa Yingst - Journalist

Nomy Lamm - Musician, Filmmaker

Patrick Califia - Writer
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Eli Claire - Artist

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Julian Gavino - Writer, Activist

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Paul and Matthew

A message from Paul, a blind gay man, about his relationship with Matthew...

As a person with gradual vision loss, I had only been using a white cane for 2 years when I met Matthew. Honestly, I should have been using one much earlier in my life, but I struggled to accept it. Mostly because I didn’t want to “look disabled” and draw attention to myself. I felt embarrassed and lesser-than; all the things a disabled person grapples with at some point on their journey.

Eventually, my safety became a priority and I applied for cane training. It was a life-changing decision in many ways. It allowed me to be more independent, and it forced me to get comfortable with having a visible disability. It wasn’t always easy, and there were some days I didn’t leave my apartment.

But when Matthew came into my life, something rather unexpected happened: I got a seeing-eye boyfriend! I hadn’t anticipated the benefits of being able to hold hands and link arms with a fully sighted human being. I could tuck my cane away and let Matthew guide us through the busy streets of Seattle, the even busier streets of New York City, and all the airports in between.

One year ago, my seeing-eye boyfriend became my seeing-eye husband and together we’ve traveled to Mexico, Canada, Australia, and all over the United States. Always hand-in-hand while Matthew describes the various sights around us (that’s something he’s very good at doing!)

Another thing he’s good at doing is encouraging me to use my cane for independence, and not to rely on him too often. And you know something? I no longer feel embarrassed or lesser-than. I actually feel pride in my disability. And I owe so much of that to my Matthew.

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2 in 5 transgender adults
1 in 4 lesbian, gay, bisexual adults

...compared to 27.2% of the overall population

40% of bisexual men
36% of lesbian women
36% of bisexual women
26% of gay men

...reported having a disability

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Limited access to LGBTQ-inclusive and fully accessible services. Accessing affordable, accessible, and inclusive health care, community services, and more is challenging for LGBTQ people with disabilities. This is particularly true for people in rural communities. Not only are people living in rural areas more likely to have disabilities, but the distances needed to travel to find LGBTQ-competent and fully accessible service providers, community programming, and more placed LGBTQ people with disabilities in rural communities at a greater risk for isolation and increased discrimination.

Bullying and exclusion for LGBTQ youth with disabilities. LGBTQ youth with disabilities report high rates of harassment and are more likely to be bullied or harassed than students without disabilities. LGBTQ students with disabilities are more likely to be disciplined in school and to drop out of school, compared to LGBTQ students without disabilities.

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Added barriers to employment. People with disabilities report incredibly high rates of employment discrimination and unemployment. In 2017, only 36% of adults with a disability were employed compared to 77% of those without a disability. This discrimination compounded by the discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity, as well as racial and ethnic discrimination, means that LGBTQ people with disabilities may struggle to find and keep jobs, and to access support services like unemployment benefits, leaving them and their families economically insecure.

Invisibility within both communities. LGBTQ people with disabilities often report that it is challenging to have their identities fully recognized. In spaces focused on disability, their unique experiences as LGBTQ people may not be recognized. And in LGBTQ spaces, services and facilities may not be inclusive or accessible, including having accessible buildings or restrooms, ASL interpretation and/or CART captioning for deaf or hard of hearing people, and more.

LGBTQ people are more likely to experience mental health conditions that can impact daily life. Mental health conditions can potentially impact a person’s daily life to such an extent that it is a disability in the eyes of the law, medical professionals, and/or the individual living with that condition. Research finds that LGBTQ people are more likely to have a mental health disorder in their lifetimes, including mood disorders such as depression, anxiety, and substance use disorders. A growing body of research links experiences of discrimination based on sexual orientation, gender identity, as well as race, ethnicity, and disability status, prejudice, barriers to competent health care, lower rates of health insurance, poverty, experiences of violence, and more to these health disparities.

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Blind since birth, mezzo-soprano Laurie Rubin tells her empowering story in memoir Do You Dream in Color? Insights From a Girl Without Sight. Acclaimed mezzo-soprano opera singer Laurie Rubin has been blind since birth, is openly lesbian, and of Jewish background. What better reason to write a memoir? On paper, she was, obviously, not your typical everyday teenager growing up. But with determination and a strong support system, she continually surpassed and redefined others’ expectations, both professionally in the music industry and outside of it.

Defying the naysayers since childhood, the lively and charismatic Rubin released Do You Dream in Color? Insights From a Girl Without Sight in 2012, recounting her experiences from childhood to full-fledged opera singer. An uplifting story about her journey to follow her dreams, Rubin’s story asks those universal questions (Who am I? and Where do I fit in?) while giving an insight into a musical world you probably know nothing about. Not only does she have a busy concert schedule, Rubin is also in developing a curriculum for Yale music (where she earned her master's degree) that will aim to dispel stereotypes and better the perceived value of people living with disabilities by allowing people of all ages and walks of life to share in the experiences of blindness.

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“Overnight, I sort of lost everything in my life. I was a very active person,” she said. “I was doing a degree, and I was working for Oxfam. I was doing all these different things, and it just suddenly struck me down. I lost the ability to walk, to tolerate light or sound, to read, to count. I had all of this joint and muscle pain, and fatigue. I spent about just over a year in the dark in my room. I couldn’t tolerate any kind of light. I had to wear my sunglasses in bed. It was it was very, very extreme."

Before she developed ME, Dandy’s biggest passions were writing novels and music, and she desperately needed a creative outlet. At the beginning of 2020, it was suggested to her that she could start drawing using an iPad. “I found it was really, is really a great way of expressing myself,” she said. "Having been isolated for so long, I didn’t really have a voice. So I started to post these things on Instagram as a way of connecting with other disabled people and queer people, just like having that sense of community. From there it just kind of exploded.”

Dandy began receiving messages from companies who wanted to work with her, and was even commissioned by Warner Brothers and the BBC. But her most recent project she describes as “astounding”. Sex toy company Lovehoney has entered into a partnership with disability start-up Handi to overhaul the taboos on sex and disability through a new book, titled The Handi Book of Love, Lust & Disability, which features the stories and poetry of 50 disabled contributors. Dandy was originally approached to be one of the contributors but while in talks with Handi, she found herself “offhandedly” offering to illustrate the entire book, on top of contributing her story.

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