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MARRIAGE
 

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Finally Marrying My Partner of 28 Years

Carolina and Erica: Wedding Proposal

Why Opinion Changed so Quickly on Gay Marriage

 

Gay Marriage

 

"I take a position similar to a position that Martin Luther King, Jr. took many, many years ago, that races don't fall in love and get married. Individuals fall in love and get married. So if two men or two women fall in love and want to get married, they should be able to do just that. No government, state or federal, should tell people who they can fall in love with and get married or not."
-John Lewis / Congressman

 



"We shouldn't just allow gay marriage. We should insist on gay marriage. We should regard it as scandalous that two people could claim to love each other and not want to sanctify their love with marriage and fidelity."
-David Brooks / New York Times

"It's insane that civil rights are being denied people in this day and age. It's embarrassing and it's heartbreaking. It goes without saying that I am completely in support of gay marriage. In ten years we'll be ashamed that was ever an issue."
-Chris Evans / Captain America

 

"Marriage should be between a spouse and a spouse, not a gender and a gender."
-Hendrik Hertzberg

 

Marriage Equality

 

On June 26, 2015, the US Supreme Court announced its landmark decision, in the case of Obergefell vs Hodges, ruling in favor of nationwide marriage equality. In so doing, it officially declared that same-sex couples have a right to marry anywhere in the United States. This historic Supreme Court ruling, which brought great joy to the LGBTQ community, holds that same-sex couples can no longer be denied the freedom to marry guaranteed by the US Constitution, assuring that all loving and committed couples will be able to marry throughout the United States.

 



President Obama issued these remarks: "Today is a big step in our march toward equality. Gay and lesbian couples now have the right to marry, just like anyone else. The Supreme Court recognized that the Constitution guarantees marriage equality. In doing so, they have reaffirmed that all Americans are entitled to the equal protection of the law; that all people should be treated equally, regardless of who they are or who they love. This decision will end the patchwork system we currently have. It will end the uncertainty hundreds of thousands of same-sex couples face from not knowing whether they’re marriage, legitimate in the eyes of one state, will remain if they decide to move or even visit another. This ruling will strengthen all of our communities by offering to all loving same-sex couples the dignity of marriage across this great land. If we are truly created equal, then surely the love we commit to one another must be equal as well. It is gratifying to see that principle enshrined into law by this decision."

 

 

"This ruling is a victory for America. This decision affirms what millions of Americans already believe in their hearts. When all Americans are treated as equal, we are all more free. We are people who believe every child is entitled to life and liberty and the pursuit of happiness. There is so much more work to be done to extend the full promise of America to every American. But today, we can say in no uncertain terms that we’ve made our union a little more perfect. That’s the consequence of a decision from the Supreme Court, but more importantly, it is a consequence of the countless small acts of courage of millions of people across decades who stood up, who came out, talked to parents, parents who loved their children no matter what, folks who were willing to endure bullying and taunts, and stayed strong, and came to believe in themselves and who they were. And slowly made an entire country realize that love is love."

 

 

Take Pride in Your Love

Wikipedia: Same-Sex Marriage in the United States

Why Opinion Changed so Quickly on Gay Marriage

Lesbian Couple Marries Atop Empire State Building

Best Lines From the Marriage Equality Ruling

World Chart: Where is Same Sex Marriage Legal?

Debunking Marriage Equality Dissenters

Enchanted Disney Wedding for Two Princesses

Timeline: Same-Sex Marriage

Love Wins: The Faces of Marriage Equality

Same-Sex Union/Marriage Legislation Worldwide

Guide to Gay and Lesbian Weddings

Carolina and Erica: Wedding Proposal

Pew Research Center: Global Snapshot of Same-Sex Marriage

YouTube: Top Ten Same-Sex Celebrity Weddings

Worst Reactions to Marriage Equality

 

Justice Anthony Kennedy wrote the court's majority opinion. Here are some of his comments: "No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than they once were. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization's oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right."

 

Richard Cohen, President, Southern Poverty Law Center, released this statement: "What a great day for our country! With today’s historic U.S. Supreme Court ruling, marriage equality for the LGBTQ community is now enshrined in our Constitution. It’s good news for not only people like our client Paul Hard but also for everyone in our country who cherishes equality. Earlier lower-court decisions reaching the same result propelled a positive change in public attitudes. We hope this ruling will do the same – because we still have a lot of work to do, particularly in the Deep South, where old attitudes are most slow to change. Members of the LGBTQ community, like our client Tristan Broussard, are still being fired from their jobs because of who they are. People like our client Ashley Diamond are still fighting to receive medical care for the same reason. And LGBTQ people everywhere are still at risk of being the victims of violent hate crimes by those with hate in their hearts. We’ll have to continue to fight for the rights of the LGBTQ community for years to come. But, today, we pause to celebrate. A tremendous battle has been won."

 

LGBTQ Wedding Ceremonies

 

Amanda and Amber

Daniel and John

Clark Brides

Melissa and Natalie

Alex and Dustin

Mellissa and Negin

Fidel and Alejandro

Lizzie and Grace

Tyler and Matthew

Marlene and Carrie

Justin and Jo

Bianca and Saima

Kate and Julia

Leticia and Karoline

Benjamin and Michael

Sara and Bianca

Rob and Tom

Brianna and Whitney

Michelle and Pat

Justin and Nathan

Erin and Chelsea

Rose and Rosie

Noah and PJ

Lily and Annette

David and Waifa

Debra and Kelly

Michelle and Crista

Erik and Terrell

Jeremy and Steve

Julia and Abby

Arne and Alex

Crystal and Heather

Miller Brides

Kia and Tanika

Carmine and Ryan

Alisa and Heather

Jesse and Lily

Clinton and Callum

Robinson Brides

Vanessa and McKena

Kristin and Amber

Anthony and Logan

 

Talking About Marriage
 

Good: Gay Marriage

Better: Same Sex Marriage

Best: Marriage Equality

 

As gay and lesbian couples begin getting married, some may struggle with the appropriate words to use to refer to the wedding ceremony that is taking place or the marriage relationship that is beginning.  You may hear confusion from someone who is sincerely trying to understand this new concept.  They may even ask, “So, which one’s the groom and which one’s the bride?”

 

It is appropriate, of course, to refer to the ceremony or the occasion as simply a “wedding” or a “marriage” like any other wedding or marriage.  There is no need to differentiate. 

 

However, the term “Gay Marriage” is respectful.  Using the term “Same Sex Marriage” shows greater knowledge of the subject.  Using the term “Marriage Equality” shows a deeper understanding of what it means and why it is important.


 

Will You Marry Me?
 

Mike and Angelo: Flash Mob Proposal

Tiffany and April: Simply Beautiful Proposal

Angie and Jessica: Backyard Proposal

Soy and Aja: Photo Shoot Proposal

Werner and Pauly: Australian Proposal

Marissa and Brittany: Orlando Proposal

Anthony and Mohammed: Venice Proposal on a Gondola

Kyra and Dani: Flash Mob Proposal

Chris and Clay: Broadway Boyfriends Flash Mob Proposal

Kelly and Christina: Philadelphia Proposal

Alex and Alex: Concert Proposal

Megan and Gretchen: Photo Shoot Proposal

Emma and Theresa: Denver Flash Mob Proposal

Compilation: Adorable Proposals

 

Marriage Equality in 37 States
 

Prior to the US Supreme Court decision to grant marriage equality nationwide, states legalized same-sex marriage one by one. By February 2015, all but 13 states had individually permitted same-sex marriage.

26 by Court Decision:

Alaska (Oct 17, 2014), Arizona (Oct 17, 2014), California (June 28, 2013), Colorado (Oct 7, 2014), Connecticut (Nov 12, 2008), Idaho (Oct 13, 2014), Indiana (Oct 6, 2014), Iowa (April 24, 2009), Kansas (Nov 12, 2014), Massachusetts (May 17, 2004), Montana (Nov 19, 2014), Nevada (Oct 9, 2014), New Jersey (Oct 21, 2013), New Mexico (Dec 19, 2013), North Carolina (Oct 10, 2014), Oklahoma (Oct 6, 2014), Oregon (May 19, 2014), Pennsylvania (May 20, 2014), South Carolina (Nov 20, 2014), Utah (Oct 6, 2014), Virginia (Oct 6, 2014), West Virginia (Oct 9, 2014), Wisconsin (Oct 6, 2014), Wyoming (Oct 21, 2014), Florida (Jan 2015), Alabama (Feb 9, 2015)

8 by State Legislature:

Delaware (July 1, 2013), Hawaii (Dec 2, 2013), Illinois (June 1, 2014), Minnesota (Aug 1, 2013), New Hampshire (Jan 1, 2010), New York (July 24, 2011), Rhode Island (Aug 1, 2013), Vermont (Sept 1, 2009)

3 by Popular Vote:

Maine (Dec 29, 2012), Maryland (Jan 1, 2013), Washington (Dec 9, 2012)

Plus: Washington DC (March 3, 2010)
 

2004 Massachusetts

2008 Connecticut
2009 Iowa
2009 Vermont
2010 New Hampshire
2010 Washington DC
2011 New York
2012 Washington
2012 Maine
2013 Maryland
2013 California
2013 Delaware
2013 Minnesota
2013 Rhode Island
2013 New Mexico
2013 New Jersey
2013 Hawaii
2014 Oregon

2014 Pennsylvania

2014 Illinois
2014 Oklahoma
2014 Virginia
2014 Utah
2014 Indiana
2014 Wisconsin
2014 Colorado
2014 West Virginia
2014 Nevada
2014 North Carolina
2014 Alaska
2014 Idaho
2014 Arizona
2014 Wyoming
2014 Montana
2014 South Carolina
2015 Florida
2015 Alabama

 

 

Time Mag: In What Countries is Same Sex Marriage Legal?

Best Lines From the Marriage Equality Ruling

Pew Research Center: Gay Marriage Around the World

Wikipedia: Same Sex Marriage

April and Tiffany: Wedding Highlights Video

Are You the Husband or the Wife?

Carolina and Erica: Wedding Proposal

Why Opinion Changed so Quickly on Gay Marriage

Unforgettable Father's Toast at Gay Son's Wedding

Planning an LGBTQ Wedding

Debunking Marriage Equality Dissenters

Love Wins: The Faces of Marriage Equality

YouTube: Top Ten Sweetest Lesbian Couples Married

 

Marriage Equality Worldwide

 

As of 22 May 2019, same-sex marriage is legally performed and recognized (nationwide or in some jurisdictions) in Argentina, Australia, Austria, Belgium, Brazil, Canada, Colombia, Denmark, Finland, France, Germany, Iceland, Ireland, Luxembourg, Malta, Mexico, Netherlands, New Zealand, Norway, Portugal, South Africa, Spain, Sweden, United Kingdom, United States, and Uruguay.

 

Same-sex marriage is also due to become legal in Costa Rica and Taiwan. Israel recognizes same-sex marriages entered into abroad as full marriages. Estonia recognizes foreign same-sex marriages to some degree, and a ministerial decision decreed that Armenia shall as well, though as of February 2019 there had been no actual cases. Furthermore, the Inter-American Court of Human Rights has issued a ruling which is expected to facilitate recognition in several countries in the Americas.

 

2001 Netherlands
2003 Belgium
2005 Spain
2005 Canada
2006 South Africa
2009 Sweden
2009 Norway
2010 Argentina
2010 Iceland
2010 Portugal
2012 Denmark
2013 Brazil
2013 France
2013 New Zealand
2013 Uruguay
2014 Scotland
2014 United Kingdom
2015 Ireland
2015 Luxembourg
2015 United States
2016 Greenland
2016 Colombia
2017 Finland
2017 Malta
2017 Germany
2017 Australia
2019 Austria
2019 Taiwan

 

Love Wins: The Faces of Marriage Equality

Carolina and Erica: Wedding Proposal

Advocate: Are Queer People Making Marriage Better?

Why Opinion Changed so Quickly on Gay Marriage

 

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