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What is Monogamy?

Monogamy is the practice or state of being married to one person at a time.  it is the practice or state of having a sexual relationship with only one partner.  it is the habit of having only one mate at a time.


Sexual monogamy refers to two partners remaining sexually exclusive with each other and having no outside sex partners. genetic monogamy refers to sexually monogamous relationships with genetic evidence of paternity.



Monogamy is a form of relationship in which an individual has only one partner during their lifetime.  it can also describe having only one partner at any one time (serial monogamy) as compared to non-monogamy (polygamy, polyamory). The term is also applied to the social behavior of some animals, referring to the state of having only one mate at any one time.

What percentage of humans are monogamous? Only 3 percent to 5 percent of the roughly 5,000 species of mammals (including humans) are known to form lifelong, monogamous bonds , with the loyal superstars including beavers, wolves and some bats. Social monogamy is a term referring to creatures that pair up to mate and raise offspring but still have flings.

What does it mean to be monogamous? Monogamy is when you are married to, or in a sexual relationship with, one person at a time. Humans are one of the few species that practice monogamy. Well, sometimes. You may have heard of something called polygamy, which is having more than one spouse at a time.


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Monogamy: Having a single long-term sexual partner
Commitment Marriage: Non-legal marriage binding two people together with the use of a traditional wedding ring opposed to legal documents
Marriage: Legal and social binding between two people that stretches beyond the boundaries of a committed relationship
Sexual Infidelity: Having a sexual relationship without a commitment to have no other sexual partners
Sexual Fidelity: Not having other sexual partners other than one's committed partner, even temporarily
Serial Monogamy: Having a series of monogamous relationships, one after the other
Open Relationship: Commitment to a partner without excluding other romantic or sexual involvement
Polygamy: Having multiple long-term sexual partners
Polyandry: Having multiple long-term male sexual partners
Polygyny: Having multiple long-term female sexual partners
Practice of intimate relationships where individuals may have more than one partner, with the knowledge and consent of all partners
Abstinence: Voluntary self-enforced limit or restraint in engaging in any type of sexual intercourse or sex play with a partner
Celibacy: State of voluntarily being unmarried, sexually abstinent, or both, usually for religious reasons

Virginity: State of never having had sexual intercourse

Chastity: State or practice of refraining from extramarital, or especially from all, sexual intercourse

Promiscuity: Having several different sexual partners on a casual basis (one night stand)


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Committed Relationship

A committed relationship is an interpersonal relationship based upon a mutually agreed-upon commitment to one another involving love, trust, honesty, openness, or some other agreed-upon behavior. Forms of committed relationships are: close friendship, long-term relationships, engagement, marriage, and civil unions. The term is most commonly used with informal relationships, such as "going steady," but may encompass any relationship where an expressed commitment is involved.


At the top of nearly every survey about what singles want in a partner is a person who is faithful, loyal, and trustworthy. In other words, singles in a committed relationship want someone who will not cheat on them.


Unfortunately, the reality of that desire often comes to a painful end as time goes on. Accurate statistics are hard to come by (because lots of people don’t want to admit to cheating), but researchers agree that 30 to 50 percent of men and 20 to 40 percent of women are unfaithful. Can you ever know for sure that your partner won’t cheat? No, because people and circumstances change over time.


Despite what most people seem to think, falling in love does not guarantee loyalty – from either party. Falling in love doesn’t even guarantee staying in love, so even if the apple of your eye is the only apple you see, it doesn’t guarantee that you won’t want to have an orange some time down the line. Love is a living, breathing thing that requires constant attention and nurturing. With that said, it’s easily understandable that there will come a time when your loyalty is tested. There will be a time when you will have to make a decision to either remain faithful or have a bite of the forbidden fruit.



Emotional fidelity simply means that one remains emotionally faithful by not being too flirtatious or provocative with another person. Thus, instead of spending emotional capital by even innocently flirting with someone other than your spouse, that “currency” should be spent in the emotional economy of your marriage (or committed relationship).


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The Urban Dictionary defines monogamish as "a relationship that is mostly monogamous, but occasionally exceptions are made for sexual play with persons outside the relationship."


“My boyfriend and I are monogamish, so it's cool if you want to make out with me.”


According to Dan Savage, who coined the term, "It isn’t a word for people who want to sleep around whenever they feel like it without their partner knowing about it. Monogamish is more about an agreement that allows for one-off encounters in certain circumstances that have been previously agreed upon. You are committed to one person, but you can also play around from time-to-time."


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