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"Sexual Identity" is a broad term, not to be confused with the specific definitions of sexual orientation or gender identity. The term, which is about sexual behavior, is sometimes used an umbrella term under which sexual orientation, romantic orientation, gender identity, and other factors are objectively discussed, described, and defined. It might be a rational way to talk about falling in love, whatever that may mean.

 



Otherwise, sexual identity is how one thinks of oneself in terms of to whom one is romantically or sexually attracted. Sexual identity may also refer to sexual orientation identity, which is when people identify or dis-identify with a sexual orientation or choose not to identify with a sexual orientation.

 

Sexual identity and sexual behavior are closely related to sexual orientation, but they are distinguished, with identity referring to an individual's conception of themselves, behavior referring to actual sexual acts performed by the individual, and sexual orientation referring to romantic or sexual attractions toward persons of the opposite sex or gender, the same sex or gender, to both sexes or more than one gender, or to no one.

 

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Historical models of sexual identity have tended to view its formation as a process undergone only by sexual minorities, while more contemporary models view the process as far more universal and attempt to present sexual identity within the larger scope of other major identity theories and processes.  Behavior is not necessarily the same thing as orientation.

 

The concept of sexual identity allows discussions of sex and gender in a manner that is more behavioral, clinical, scientific, or research-oriented. This neutral or impartial approach permits discourse about sexual attraction (and other factors) in a more detached or dispassionate way. This would include objective conversations about sexual behavior from a purely sociological or psychological perspective.

 

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Definitions and Identity

 

Sexual identity has been described as a component of an individual's overall identity that reflects their sexual self-concept. The integration of the respective identity components (moral, religious, ethnic, occupational) into a greater overall identity is essential to the process of developing the multi-dimensional construct of identity.

 



Sexual identity can change throughout an individual's life, and may or may not align with biological sex, sexual behavior or actual sexual orientation. In a 1990 study by the Social Organization of Sexuality, only 16% of women and 36% of men who reported some level of same-sex attraction had a homosexual or bisexual identity.

Sexual identity is more closely related to sexual behavior than sexual orientation is. The same survey found that 96% of women and 87% of men with a homosexual or bisexual identity had engaged in sexual activity with someone of the same sex, contrasted to 32% of women and 43% of men who had same-sex attractions.

 

Upon reviewing the results, the organization commented: "Development of self-identification as homosexual or gay is a psychological and socially complex state, something which, in this society, is achieved only over time, often with considerable personal struggle and self-doubt, not to mention social discomfort."

 

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Variety of Sexualities

 

In 1976, the French philosopher Michel Foucault made the meticulously researched case that sexuality is a social construct used as a form of control. In the 40 years since, society has been busy constructing sexualities. Alongside the traditional orientations of heterosexual, homosexual, and bisexual, a myriad other options now exist in the lexicon, including:

 

 

--Ambisexual - Similar to bisexual, sexual attraction to both males and females

--Pansexual - Gender-blind sexual attraction to all people

--Polysexual - Gender-blind sexual attraction to many people
--Omnisexual - Similar to pansexual and polysexual, but actively attracted to all genders, rather than gender-blind

--Abrosexual -  Someone whose sexuality is fluid (this means that their sexual identity can change)
--Gynesexual - Someone who’s sexually attracted to women, females, and femininity (this does not specify the subject’s own gender in the same way as “lesbian” and “heterosexual”)
--Androsexual - Sexual attraction towards men, males, and masculinity (this does not specify the subject’s own gender in the same way as “gay male” and “heterosexual”)

--Androgynosexual - Sexual attraction to both men and women with an androgynous appearance

--Skoliosexual - Sexual attraction to non-cisgender people, including genderqueer, non-binary, and transsexual people and expressions

--Asexual - Someone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction

--Allosexual - Similar to asexual, term for someone who is not sexual

--Demisexual - Sexually attracted to someone based on a strong emotional connection
--Graysexual - Occasionally experiencing sexual attraction, but usually not

--Cupiosexual - Subset of asexual, describes people who never experience sexual attraction who still desire a sexual relationship

--Sapiosexual - Sexually attracted to intelligence
--Sociosexual - Comfortable with having sex without any intimacy, closeness or commitment

--Objectumsexual - Sexual attraction to inanimate objects
--Autosexual - Someone who prefers masturbation to sexual activity with others
--Hypersexual - Dysfunctional preoccupation with sexual fantasy

 

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Andro and Gyno

 

Andro  -  sexual behavior relevant to men/males/masculinity 

Gyno  -  sexual behavior relevant to women/females/femininity

 

Androphilia and gynephilia are terms used in behavioral science to describe sexual orientation, as an alternative to a gender binary homosexual and heterosexual conceptualization. Androphilia describes sexual attraction to men or masculinity. Gynephilia describes the sexual attraction to women or femininity. Ambiphilia describes the combination of both androphilia and gynephilia in a given individual, or bisexuality.

 



The terms are objectively (sometimes clinically) used for identifying a person's object of attraction without attributing a sex assignment or gender identity to the person. This can avoid bias inherent in normative conceptualizations of human sexuality, avoid confusion and offense when describing people in non-western cultures, as well as when describing intersex and transgender people, especially those who are nonbinary or otherwise falling outside the gender binary.

 

Other objective (clinical) shorthand describes sexual interactions (behavior) without reference to sexual orientation or romantic relationships:

 

MSM  -  men having sex with men

MLM  -  men loving men

 

WSW  -  women having sex with women

WLW  -  women loving women

 

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Romantic Identities
 
--Heteroromantic - Romantic attraction towards persons of the opposite gender
--Homoromantic - Romantic attraction towards persons of the same gender
--Monoromantic - Romantic attraction to members of one sex or gender only

--Biromantic - Romantic attraction towards persons of either or both genders
--Omniromantic - Romantic attraction towards persons of any and all genders

--Panromantic/Polyromantic - Romantic attraction towards persons of any and all genders
--Transromantic/Skolioromantic - Romantic attraction towards persons of variant or ambiguous gender or to transgender or intersex persons

--Neutroisromantic - Romantic attraction toward persons of neutral or null gender

--Demiromantic/Grayromantic - Romantic attraction towards anyone, but only after forming a deep emotional bond with the person

--Cupioromantic - Subset of aromantic, describes people who never experience romantic attraction who still desire a romantic relationship

--Lithromantic - Feels romantic attraction towards someone, but does not have any desire for those feelings to be reciprocated

--Aromantic - Lack of romantic attraction towards anyone

 

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Love, Sex, Romance

 

When discussing issues of sexual identity, four common suffixes are typically utilized: sexual, philic, romantic, gender. Any number of prefixes (homo, hetero, bi, trans, pan, poly, a) might be attached to these suffixes.

 

sexual - Describing a state or style of sexuality relating to the instincts, physiological processes, and activities connected with physical attraction or intimate physical contact between individuals. Related terms include: carnal, coital, erotic, sensual

 

philic - Comes from the Greek word "philos," which means love. Words that end with philic refer to someone that has a fondness of, attraction to, or love for someone or something. It also means to have a tendency toward someone or something. Related terms include: phile, philia, philo.

 

romantic - Condition of being romantic. Romantic love is the kind of love related to desire. It is heavily controlled by emotions such a passion. It is the opposite of platonic love, where you have no sexual desires for that person whatsoever. Related terms: affection, expression, sentiment, intimacy, lust.

 

gender - Socially constructed characteristics of women and men, such as norms, roles, and relationships of and between groups of women and men. It varies from society to society and can be changed. Not to be confused with biological sex.
 

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Sexual Behavior: Orientation and Identity

Most definitions of sexual orientation include a psychological component, such as the direction of an individual's erotic desire, or a behavioral component, which focuses on the sex of the individual's sexual partner(s). Some people prefer simply to follow an individual's self-definition or identity.

The APA states that "sexual orientation is an enduring emotional, romantic, sexual, or affectional attraction toward others. It is easily distinguished from other components of sexuality including biological sex, gender identity (the psychological sense of being male or female), and the social gender role (adherence to cultural norms for feminine and masculine behavior). Sexual orientation exists along a continuum that ranges from exclusive heterosexuality to exclusive homosexuality and includes various forms of bisexuality. Bisexual persons can experience sexual, emotional, and affectional attraction to both their own sex and the opposite sex. Persons with a homosexual orientation are sometimes referred to as gay (both men and women) or as lesbian (women only). Sexual orientation is different from sexual behavior because it refers to feelings and self-concept. Individuals may or may not express their sexual orientation in their behaviors."

 



Sexual identity and sexual behavior are closely related to sexual orientation, but they are distinguished, with identity referring to an individual's conception of themselves, behavior referring to actual sexual acts performed by the individual, and orientation referring to "fantasies, attachments and longings." Individuals may or may not express their sexual orientation in their behaviors. People who have a homosexual sexual orientation that does not align with their sexual identity are sometimes referred to as "closeted." The term may, however, reflect a certain cultural context and particular stage of transition in societies which are gradually dealing with integrating sexual minorities.

 

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In studies related to sexual orientation, when dealing with the degree to which a person's sexual attractions, behaviors and identity match, scientists usually use the terms concordance or discordance. Thus, a woman who is attracted to other women, but calls herself heterosexual and only has sexual relations with men, can be said to experience discordance between her sexual orientation (homosexual or lesbian) and her sexual identity and behaviors (heterosexual).

Sexual identity may be more effective in describing a person's perception of his or her own sex, rather than sexual orientation.

 

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Miscellaneous Sexualities

 

The varieties of sexualities are numerous and sometimes unusual or exotic. For purposes of scientific discourse, all types of sexual behaviors are considered, analyzed, and researched without bias or agenda. Here is an example of some of the more obscure sexualities.

 

Cupiosexuality describes a person who never experiences sexual attraction but still desires a sexual relationship. They are considered a type of asexuality.

 

Sapiosexuality describes a person who is sexually attracted to intelligence in other people.

 

Sociosexuality describes a person who is comfortable with having sex without any intimacy, closeness or commitment. They are often involved in sexual activity outside of their committed relationship.

 
Objectumsexuality describes a person who has a sexual attraction to inanimate objects.


Autosexuality describes a person who prefers masturbation to sexual activity with others. They are described as having sex with themselves.


Hypersexuality describes a person who is a sex addict. It describes someone with a dysfunctional preoccupation with sexual fantasy.

 

 

Sapiosexual

 

A sapiosexual person is someone who finds intelligence and the human mind to be the most sexually attractive feature for a potential sexual relationship, often regardless of gender or conventional attractiveness. A sapiosexual is someone that is sexually, physically, and mentally turned on by smart people. Sapiosexuals are aroused by intelligence and aesthetic talents. The origin of the word comes from the term "sapiens," which means wise or judicious.

 

If you are a sapiposexual person, intelligence, and deep conversation, inspires you and turns you on. When looking for potential partners, intelligence is always at the top of your list. You love debating. Physical attraction is great, but conversation is better. The more you get to know someone, the more attracted to them you are. You hate small talk. You are extremely turned off by foolishness or brutism. You would much rather meet someone in a bookstore than a bar. You are an incredible listener. Bad grammar is one of your biggest turn offs.

 



And it’s not just about book smarts for you. While most would think that being attracted to intelligence in others refers to their knowledge of topics that are tangible, that’s not the only kind of intelligence that draws you to someone. Instead, you also find emotional intelligence, and self-awareness incredibly sexy. You love when someone is in tune with their feelings, and you admire those who can rationalize and work through situations using their mind. You find that kind of maturity enticing.

 

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Noetisexual, a label used purely for specificity of one's attraction, means that a person is attracted to the way others' minds work rather than simply one ill-defined facet of it (intellect). This label is considered an alternative to the term sapiosexual.

Noetisexuals are exclusively sexually (and or romantically) attracted to the shape of another person's mental landscape and want to explore it. It’s about falling in love with the way they think and their unique mental make up.

Noetisexuals are unable to bring themselves to feel sexually/romantically attracted to those that do not have a mentality that is up to their standards even if they are physically attractive or if there is an existing emotional bond.

 

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